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Help me-I need advice-I'm desperate!!

Written on 26/12/2008 22:45:08 by

Helsbels29

Hi all,

I need some advice (or a miracle??). I am 36 weeks pregant with my 2nd child so I'm already exhausted. However, this isn't helped by my 2 year old son. He doesn't sleep-ever, It's honestly like he doesn't need it & I'm exhausted!! He rarely sleeps during the day (if he does it is for a max of an hour). He has healthy diet, lots of love & attention, has plenty of exercise & is a bright and loving little boy. He slept great for the first 6 months of being born but gradually he just seems to be getting worse & worse. The problem is there is no consistency to his sleep patterns so we never know what to expect each night. Sometimes he will go down at 7pm, sleep solid until 12am then he can be bouncing the walls full of energy from 12am til 5am, then go back down again until 7.30am the wake up bright as a button. Other times he is up until 11pm and sleeps solid until 4am then he is up for the day. Occasionally he goes down at 8pm and will wake up for milk at 11pm but then go back to sleep until 6am. He still loves his milk and will wake up for a bottle anywhere from once to 4 times a night. He has never had a dummy as he would never take one and hasn't ever had a comfort blanket or anything like that so I think he is using it as that. He certainly doesn't use use it to get back to sleep as sometimes it wakes him up!! He has also started coming into our bed on a night after going down in his own bed no problem. I have never brought him into our bed as its something I have always felt quite strongly about but he has suddenly decided he wants to come in. I have only just finished work for maternity leave so when I did this I decided I would put a stop to him coming into our bed. Im not a soft mam & don't mind if he cries if I know hes okay and is only doing it for attention. I had to return him to bed one night a total of 108 times & thought I was going to go into early labour I was so worked up!! My husband is a great dad and is extremley supportive but I wanted to do this by myself as he works shifts so it is down to me most of the time to get him settled. If he comes in from nightshift & my son was in our bed he would wake up for the day despite probably needing another couple of hours and if my husband needs to get up for work at 5am my son would also get up! Not surprisingly Im exhausted & need him settled for baby number 2!!! I have tried the return back to bed technique like they do on "supernanny" for nearly 2 & a half weeks and he still wont give up. I have tried the little steps technique where you sit on the bed then move closer to the door etc but nothing works! It makes it harder to do when his pattern is so different. We have always kept him in a stable routine,he has his bathtime at the sametime and gets a story etc. Maybe he is just energetic?? He isn't naughty,hes adorable and bright,extremley confident and a good healthy eater. If anyone could give me advice (apart from moving out haha) I would greatly appreciate it. Sorry to waffle on for so long!!!x

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