Mums' stories

hello...im 40 wks and i have 5 yr old an 1 half yr old wen i had my 1st it was easy but wen he got older and began to speak it got halder cos he was really mouthy and naughty but as he got older he's been bit better still mouthy every now then but what kid aint my second child came and now she copyin her brother but in bad way lol i do sit and think bout what she gona be like with the new baby cos she slaps people wen u tell her off she carrys on i was really scared weather it was good idea to have another baby with a 1 half yr old....but i though i can do this with extra baby just be strong and postive it will be easyer maybe get them to help you with the new baby like bring u nappies ect and speak to ur husband bout it....keep ur head up x

hi hope your ok .its always a worry when you find out you are pregnant .but you will be fine .im a mum of nine and now 16 weeks pregnant with baby number ten.the more children ive had the easier its got.ive got five sons my oldest is 16,13,11,9,3 my daughters are 14,8,6,4. so my advice to you is not to worry and enjoy your pregnancy.xxx

Hi hope you're ok!! You must be constantly worried. Try to calm down and talk to your husband a bit too, you will feel worse if its just you lying awake worrying alone. I have two boys under two and my friend has three girls under 4!! It is tough going, but a lot easier than I had anticipated. I was ok most days, but when my first little boy began walking at 9 and a half months, he would get cheekier and quite a handful. I began to freak out!! I thought what am I going to do with one, whilst seeing to the other. People would just say oh you will have your work cut out, which didnt help!! Sometimes I would get upset at night and I couldnt sleep. I spoke to my friend and she felt the same as I did at first, she reassured me a lot and she said her middle child is a handful too, like my son. Her secret was lots of planning and play pen type organisation. family and friends help if you have their support. I dont really have that so I just thought about taking each day at a time and getting used to each situation. When my second son was born, my other son was 16 months. It is still tricky for me to balance each of them because they are both at important stages, my younger son still wakes twice for feeds in the nite, my other son is scared of the dark and his own room and at some point I want to introduce him to the potty! It sounds hectic but really its not that bad, most days are great and they are such happy boys playing together, but I do have those lazy days when i can't budge from the sofa. I do think the reason you are sick and depressed is through worry. Just remember nothing is ever as bad as it seems. you need to catch your breath and rationalise your thoughts. Even have a bit of you time to relax, nip to the hairdressers or just out for a walk, not thinking about being pregnant or children. I think if you could relax more, your feelings will start to change xx