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My baby and me

Written on 11/08/2010 11:55:39 by

emilyryan

Hello mums and mums to be and even the dads if your reading,

I fell pregnant at the age of 16 just before my 17th birthday, me and my partner we didnt mind - we kind of expected it although it was not planned but a very very much loved and wanted baby. Infact me and tommy ( my partner ) were soo happy that we had a little baby on the way. We stuck together through everything, he is my best friend aswell as boyfriend.

At the time I was at college at the time studying hair dressing,
The first bit of the pregnancy was the worst stressful bit for me, being young and having an unsupportive mum was difficult, i was so scared to tell her that i was pregnant because the way she is i knew that she would not be happy about it. So i told my sister who fell pregnant at 18 so i thought she would understand and would be a good person to tell.

She told my mum - and just as i thought my mum wouldnt be supportive and she told me to have an abortion, i didn't listen to her no way was i going to abort my child. So from then on me and my mum we didn't speak, i'd had enough i wanted to wash my hands of her she was so negative towards me. I started to do things alone just me and Tommy.

Tommy has a very welcoming nice supportive mum, who wanted to help us all the way. But me at the time this was my first pregnancy i was young and i wanted my own mum to be there for me. I didn't like the idea of someone being so involved in my pregnancy. I wanted it to be something for me and Tommy to experience alone and together. As i've never had the loving and caring that tommys mum was trying to provide i found it all too much for me, i wasnt used to it and found it interfearing.

Anyway in the mean time carried on at college right until i was qualified i proved everyone who ever judged me wrong. I planned to go back the following year when Jaiden was around a year old.

I found out that i was having a little boy on the 5th may 2009
It was the best part of my pregnancy, finding out what i was having and seeing my baby on the screen, it felt so real :)

( by this time me and my mum sorted out our issues )

I was 5 days over due it was the worst thing ever i thought that i was going to be early because i didnt think my tiny little body could carry right until the end - but i was wrong :( So my waters finally broke at 1am ( 3rd October 2009 ) on my partners bed whilst i was on the laptop, i felt uncomftable to i stretched out and then 'POP' this warm thick water flew out, my boyfriend was asleep at the time and jumped up in shock!!!

We was both scared so i called my sister, who was at my mums telling her what had happend she told me to come over, so tommy drove me over and we all went to my local hospital who checked me over and sent me back home because i hadn't started to dialate yet.

I was starting to feel so umconftable and couldnt sleep and started to get pains every so often... so i decided it was time that I went to hospital at 5.30am. They was about to send me home until they saw a dip in my babys heart beat. so they kept me on the monitors, time flys by but i was so scared hearing the girls in labour the noises put me off and i just didnt want to do it anymore :( i wish i didn't have to go through it, but i did.
Luckily I had my supportive partner with me, telling me everything was going to be okay.

I went on until around 5pm I wasn't getting anywhere i was dilating so slowly, that they decided to put me on a drip and give me and epidural to help speed things up, i agreed and took the epidural. I was on there until 11.42pm

When it came to 11pm and the midwife checked me to see how far i had got, she said that i was still dilating very slow and only at 3cm and if i hadn't got any further by 1am they would have to give me a c-section.

It got to 11.42pm and my babys heart beat was constantly dropping and even going flat ! so i knew something was up, so did they because the doctors came in and gave me the choice of having a c-section. I said yes and got rushed of to theatre, my son was born at 11.52pm 3rd October 2009.

He was in a bad condition when he came out, i was so upset because any longer and he may had not made it, his cord was looped around his head and he had to have a oxygen mask to help him to breath. I asked for a c-section from the beggining of my pregnancy but was put through 22hours of stress and heartache. To only have what i wanted at the start.

I am 4 ft 10inch and i weigh 6stone my feet are size 2-3, my son was 7lb 8oz.
I think that is clear enough i wasn't able to have him natrually.

I had trouble with him feeding i wanted to breast feed, but he wouldn't take to it.
So i put him on cow and gate comfort i found that it didnt desolve properly and blocked the teet and found myself in the middle of the night having to bite the teet to unblock it, i thought it was the bottles. Then one day i ran out of milk and had the 1st stage green one that someone brought as a gift i was scared to change but i did it, and it was the best thing i did. He poohed he was more full and the teets never got blocked again.



Now he is 10months old
he started to smile at 4 weeks
started to laugh at 3 and a half months
started to say dada at 5 and a half months
He got his first two bottom teeth at 6 months
his first top teeth at 7 months
started to crawl and stand up against furniture at 8 months
he claps, says hiya, dada, nana, buba, mama.
gives me a high five, loves the camera.
and is standing alone.

I have done so well raising him, he is a happy little soul.
Given me such an amazing experience he is going to be one soon.
I can't wait.

At the moment he's into everything, i can't turn my back for 2 minutes. He loves music video's and loves to dance :) he makes me so proud.

Im now expecting my second baby - so soon, but its a gift me and my partner can do this, it may be hard but together we can get through it.

Thank you for reading.

Emily Ryan x

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