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4 months pregnant, single & scared!

This is my second child, first is 12 years old and i'm great friends with my ex-husband. I wish the same could be said for this babies' father.

Not a planned pregnancy (antibiotics & the pill - which he knew), he said have an abortion and we'll carry on the relationship or keep the baby and he'll cut all ties. He said he will wish and pray the child's not born, wont love it, bond with it or wish to have anything to do with it when it's born.

Left me shattered and mentally exhausted. Having raised a child already, i know the joys they bring and can face this totally alone. What scares me is, if he comes back, when i'm breastfeeding and tired - demanding contact. I have nothing against Dad's seeing their children. My ex has always been part of my son's life and even after divorce - we're a united front where he's concerned.

But, sadly the hard way, i've learned this man is not so nice. I can't imagine him being reasonable - he said he'll hate me for keeping my baby. I know if he's not on the birth certicate he's not got any PR - but can still apply for it and get contact. Can anyone advise me on dealing with such an ex?

I hope and pray he stays away - i don't want to feel bullied or belittled anymore.

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Posted on 18/01/2012 09:31:26

chelseymarie

Im in the same boat. This is my first baby and my boyfriens just walked out on us because he didnt want the responsbilities. I have been extremly unwell with TB and had to have a cervical stitch and he wasent willing to help take of me. He wanted me to cook,clean,work,pay bills and im bed bound but stuff him.

At the end of the day if he really doesnt want the baby that much then what is the chances of him coming back and if he does tell him to stuff it. Being a dad starts the day you find out not when they feel like it. :) xx

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Posted on 03/02/2012 00:40:06