Forum : Pregnancy

Hi,
Sorry to say this, but I cannot believe that your partner, knowing about your eating disorder, could actually tell you that, knowing there is a chance that you will not eat properly and therefore put the baby at risk.
He needs to grow up!! Your weight gain is normal, every woman puts on weight and you are young enough to loose it all once the baby is born. Please, please be strong and tell him that he is being selfish and should be supporting you and not putting you down at this time!!!
I am really angry!

whatever happens please remember that little baby needs you to eat healthily so he/she can grow strong get all the nutrients it needs.i cant believe he has been so hurtful to you.your having his baby for gods sake! of course you put weight on but most men find there wife/partner glows with health when pregnant and like it.please ignore his comments.i would like to see him have a baby and not put weight on.you need support now more than ever.make him apologise and until he does i would make him sleep on the sofa!! please take care and look after yourself.
karen xx

hiya we all put on weight when we are expecting its the norm,we have to to make sure the baby is ok and healthy.i really cant believe your other half has said this to you knowing your past problems,did he not realise you would put on weight???dont start dieting whilst you are pregnant,just eat healty and when baby is born you will soon loose the weight,you just concentrate on making sure that your ok and that baby is ok.i know you must be so hurt with what he has said to you and hopefully by now he has said sorry to you,show him this post so he realises how hurtful he has been,he is lucky if my hubby said that to me he would of got a slap round the chops and would be getting the cold shoulder treatment at the very lease,you take care hun and try not to stress yourself out as you need to be taking things easy jo x

Hiya Hun, Firstly, your partner is an [censored]!! (srry had to say that)
No one would ever dream of saying that to you considering your past, esp your partner.
I agree, please do not diet whilst pregnant, you would be putting your baby at risk.
I wold also show him the post you have made so he is fully aware how bad he has hurt you and made you feel.
I had my first child at 18, i was a size 12 before i got pregnant and i put on loads, i mean LOADS of weight. I was back into my normal clothes a few weeks after my baby was born so i wouldnt worry about your weight whilst being pregnant. Remember your hips and thighs get wider anyway when pregnant getting ready for when the baby comes.
If he doesnt find you attractive and finds your weight gain an issue, show him the door!! What does he expect a baby to grow inside you and just pop out a big healthy baby when you have a flat stomach???
Stay strong sweetie, message me anytime if you fancy a chat as im a young mum also.
Take Care, Kerry x

heya x
hope other than this baby and you are healthy and enjoying the pregnancy.
so far in this pregnancy i've gained just over 2 stone. i hate looking at myself in the mirror too.
my sisters bf rubbed it in last night when i said i was just over 13stone.
he kept say i'm lighter than you :P
it hurt me.
i am a single mum of tyler(19months) and 2 days over due with this baby.
i cant wait to stop over-eating which i cant stop my self. everytime i go into the kitchen i come back with something else to eat :p
if you ever need a chat feel free to send me a message x
i no it not the same. your dealing with your partner and me, my sisters bf. but it still hurts x

love to you and your bump hehe
take care.

Hi,

How inconsiderate of your partner, not many women feel good during their pregnancies so to hear something like that must be deverstating!!
I have read up on weight gain during pregnancy and you can gain up to 4 stone full term, which is alot so your weight gain is completly normal and as long as you are healthy and baby is growing normal then you shouldnt worry, you can lose weight after you have given birth but do it by eating healthy and exercise, dont go back down the old road of bulimia.
Tell your partner how he has made you feel, and make him feel really bad about it too!!

Take care and stay healthy xx

Hey, I know almost exactly how you feel (minus the comments)
Im only 9 weeks so havent really gained weight yet. But i am 17 and have been in and out of eating disorders since i was about 12/13.
even before being pregnant i have gained weight, 7/8 months ago i was in a size 4, now im struggling to do up my size 8's. Just remember you ate eating for your baby!
When I had my eating disorders onlyu close friends knew, so I struggled through it almost alone and recorvered on my own.
I feel so fat at the minute, and was planning a fast jsut before i found out I am pregnant (which i cancelled)
anyway if you ever need to talk, im here, just messege me =]

i have had the same problem with my partner says he doesnt find pregnant women attractive......it made me feel like i was worth nothing. i was size 12 beforebeing pregnant but have always suffered with my weight since school... so this is a big issue for me :( yet i love my bump! cant wait til he is here. im just about 22weeks so if need to chat to someone im herexx