Forum : Pregnancy

Congratulations on your pregnancy! You'd usually get your booking appointment with the midwife between 8-10 weeks and then dating scan between 11-15 weeks, but it can all depend on your area and how they do things as they all seem a little different! It was my midwife who referred me for my dating scan. I saw her at 8 weeks and then had my scan at what I thought was 12 weeks but ended up being 13+3 weeks! I'm now 28+6 weeks pregnant and beginning to get impatient as I just want to meet my baby :) x

I told my parents the day I found out! I think you might need the support of them as I went through a pretty rough first trimester with morning sickness and tireness. This sounds really mean but you're other half will soon learn that this pregnancy and the choices you make will be down to you, it's you that has to go through it and it's though.
I decided I didn't want to find out the sex and my husband was really upset but in the end he said he'll do what I want.
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Thanks for Info guys.

Claire, I think he just wants everything to be 'perfect' and traditional, but i keep saying if I lost the baby i'd tell parents and close friends anyway so why not share the joy now. I really want to consider his feelings too and make it special for him and keep him involved with making decisions...although yes some things are definitely up to us only...like decisions about pain relief!!! :-). He is good at keeping secrets (in a nice way!), I just blurt things out accidentally. I'm starting to get nausea pretty regulary now so would like to suprise them before its too late and they guess! Think 8 weeks would be good, meet in the middle.

We're the opposite, I want to know the sex and he doesn't! Hope you're feeling better now.

My midwife booking app was at 10 weeks and my scan was at 12 weeks. I would definatly say that if you want to tell your parents then you should, we gave ourselves a week of knowing just us then told my mum at 6 weeks then waited to tell everyone else after the scan. It depends on your relationship though, we made decisions together and I wouldn't change that. Even finding out the sex was joint. Although we didn't decide till the morning of the scan lol x

HI,
Im 13 weeks and still not had my Scan :-( its booked for 14TH of Feb, I found out I was pg at 4/5 wks so its been a very long wait for us and we are trying not to tell ppl until after the scan as ppl always ask when are you due but until you have had your scan you are unsure and I think it will be nice to have a scan pic to show aswell, I live in Glasgow, so maybe you will get yours quicker as your in Essex, gd luck x

Hi, sorry I didn't mean to sound quite so harsh about the other halfs. I felt the same way, it was me, him and baby, but as soon as I turned 16 weeks and I felt baby move I felt so different, such a massive bond. It's hard for men cos they wont feel that until baby comes but you will and it's amazing. I get him to play music to baby and talk to baby. Enjoy this selfish moment when it's you and baby while you can x

Not at all claire, Its great to hear others experiences, and know whats normal and also what I might expect to feel later on. Been suffering nausea this weekend so its more real now, and this is definitely something i'm going through on my own unfortunately! Cannot wait to have my scan, feel baby move and yes have that selfish bond with baby before I have to share him/her with the world! I always thought I'd love being pregnant, so just hope horrible symptoms go away soon and I can enjoy the good bits.

Good luck everyone. x

Scotsgirl, oh no you've waited ages for your scan! Hopefully it'll be worth the wait and get a good image as he'she will be that bit bigger? At least you have a date to look forward to now. x