Forum : Pregnancy

Well it sounds like you are both doing everything right. I am in a similar situation.

My OH has a little girl age 7 who lives with her mam and half brother (by another man).
She has taken to me really well and is quite happy about the baby, even though it is 'another boy' LOL
She cries like crazy when my OH takes her home and clings to him it's heartbreaking. I would love to have her with us all the time.

It's doubtful ihi behaviour is about the new baby, he probably loves spending so much time with you and doesn't want to go back to his mam where he doesn't get as much attention.
I know my OH's little one has to do so much around the house and for her other brother she's treated like a nurse maid! That's why she's like being with us, we treat her like a little girl.

I know it doesn't help much, but just keep doing what you are doing and when he is older he might make the decision to live with you.

That's what I'm hoping for x x x

i dont know if ot helps but i remember when i was little and when i went to my dads i didnt want to go back to mums, and when i was with my mum i didnt want to go to my dads. i was 5 when they spilt iup, and at that time the courts sent someone to ask me (my brother was to litttle at 3 yrs) who i wanted to live with. neither parents were there when i was asked but when i was with my mum, i told the courts i wanted to live with my mum, but when i was at my dads and they asked me i told them i wanted to livei with my dad...... personally i think the courts were wrong to ask me that at 5 yrs old anyway!!.

i think it sounds like your doing things right making sure he is fully involved that way he wont feel pushed out, and its nice to hear that he gets on well with you... being a step mum is hard (my step daughters are 12yrs and 13 yrs and although my OH thinks they like me. i still get the feeling they think im the reason why their mum and dad seperated (i met my OH 4 yrs after the divorce) or that i have stopped them getting back together.... that siad they have said to their mum that they want to move to endland and live with us (they live in ireland) but i know this is just to wind mum up.

U may find that as ur LO gets older he will make a decision to move in with u. xx

Thank you ladies! It is so so hard. I hate seeing him so upset and so clingy to us. He's fab when he's with us and seems so happy and well behaved!

His teacher asked for his mum to phone her yesterday, and it turns out his behaviour in school has deteriorated. He's not concentrating in school and distracting other pupils in class, he's not being very nice to other pupils either and he's got to have a behavioural assessment! That's totally not him and now I'm really concerned for him! Something is really effecting him now.