Forum : Pregnancy

Oh hun, hang in there, a lot of men are like that especially when they have other children, don't hate being pregnant, enjoy every min of it, there are plenty of women on this forum to chat to, i'm always happy for a chat , my name is Sarah and i have one little girl who is one now, amazing how fast thats gone, and were trying for baby no 2 at the moment, you can either leave me a message or you can find me on the c&g friends forum as well. Take care hun xxx

hi thank you for the comment i didnt think any one would reply! i feel really selfish for feeling the way i do cz i would never stand in the way of him and his kids but it just feels like he should be enjoying this as much as i was but his other girls seem to come first. thank you again for the comment it made me smile xxx

men are strange arent they, hopefully he will come round when the baby is born,
he may be scared 3rd time round and not want to worry you with his worries.
enjoy the last few weeks of pregnancy and try not to worry you will be fine.
take care hugs xxx

when i was pregnant i was so excited and it was something i was constantly thinking and talking about men just see it different you feel more involved cuz your carrying the baby but believe me when your baby is born it will change my baby and her dad are so close and he is so involved jus grin anbd bear it and enjoy ur pregnancy it doesnt last forever and youll miss it wen ur not gud luck if u need to spk just leave a message

thanku so much for the comments theyve really made me smile!!! think ur right about men lol xxxx

My partner was like that during my first pregnancy even though it wa his 1st child but once the baby was born he was really in to bein a dad, we are expecting our second now and he just the same this time round with the pregnancy, guess some men are just like that, hang on on there chick its worth the wait for your baby, I look at it that men just dont get that emotional attachment until they can see things in the flesh!!!!! Men they can be hard work sometimes !!

they do lack interest and they do drive you mad but when that little one arrives and its all hands on deck....he will make you proud....and a great daddy to your little one. hang in there and keep smiling. fiona

Hi Treacle,
I am 35 weeks pregnant and in a similar situation. My husband has two boys aged 6 and 7 and has shown no interest whatsoever in my pregnancy. When I ask him to come to appointments he wont - because he didn't do it with the others, and at the moment he has all the time in the world for his kids and is even doing odd jobs around the house for the ex.
Like your husband, he refuses to talk about it, and things have had such a knock on effect on me that I no longer have any interest in being pregnant.
Trying to look at it from their point of view - I think they are trying to prove so much that the new baby won't push the other kids away that they are in fact pushing out the new baby.
If you ever want to chat my email is nertg@btconnect.com.

i think your right lol i get along fantastic with his two girls and his eldest has asked me whether anything will change when the new baby comes along but i have re assured nothing will change! as we have his girls over every other weekend. think at the moment im just feeling a bit lost as he's just started a new job too and i ended up going to my appointment on my own on wednesday and had to have every test done under the sun as i have too many white blod cells and they cant figure out why. which was quite scary especially as there was no one there to hold my hand and tell me its nothing to worry about lol xxxx

Hiya,
I'm having the same problem with my partner, we have been together for nearly 2 years now, although this is my first baby its his 7th so as you can imagine hes not interested at all. He seems to think that he doesnt need to come to appointments with me ect cause he knows it all anyway. I've recently started ante natal classes and am having to go on my own as he has to look after his kids and cause he simply just doesnt think he needs to go, if he cant support me now then how is he going to support me in labour ect? Everyone elses partners are going to the classes with them and I just feel like the odd one out. My email is beckybigmouth@hotmail.com if anyone fancys a chat.
I'm nearly 35 weeks gone and expecting a little girl on the 11th August.
Becky and very big bump xx