Forum : Pregnancy

hi
i would not be scaryed have a baby is the best feeling ever and if he wants to walk away from that then its his lost
you will see when you feel your baby move inside you and you hold your little baby close to you the love that you feel you have never felt before
have you not got family that can be your rock and help you out or some one to talk to if not if you want i will alway be here if you need someone to talk to
how does his family feel do they want to know has he told them
dont do want you dont want to do just to try and get him back because if he is not there for you now when will he be

HI hun, first of all i want to say congrats to you, and secondly i'd say he's not much of a man/rock if that's how he treats you!!, yeah maybe he'll come round and get over the shock so to speak, if not than sad to say but your much better of without him!!, lets face it if he wants to be in his baby;s life what;s his problem? - that you wouldn't do what he wanted you to do?????. Good for you for sticking to your guns, your gonna do great xxxxx

hi beckie thanks for the advice my family and friends are all here for me but its just really wierd for him to not be there but ill have to get used to it and get stronger on own for the sake of the baby. he tried to make me choose between him and the baby and i know ive made the right decision! his mum who i was really close to is agreeing with him she just wants her son to be happy so i can understand that but its her grandchild at the end of the day so she should be more supportive i think. but im slowly realising if thats the way they are then maybe i'd be better off without them! its just so hard to say bye as hes my first love and we've done everything together for so long! x

to sassy_1 hi thanks hun your right that im better off with out him i know deep down but cant picture life with out him yet but that wil prob come with time i guess xxx

hi
yes you are better off with out him but it does not stop it hurting like mad
if one of my sons done that what he has done to you i will have to seat him
down and get him to talk about why he has walked out and tell him its time to be a man and face it also tell him he played with fire and his got burn and now he has a baby on way and its not going to go away have you asked him if he is going to see his baby if yes then why walk out if no then what is he going to say to his baby when he/she goes looking for he/she dad when older

hi beckie he said he will see the baby but because he doesnt want to be like his dad who left and he hates for it. ive said to him if hes going to see the baby and love it then why punish me for deciding not to kill it? his reply was because he didnt want a baby but hes being forced into being a dad x

actually hes not being forced into it at all is he really because at the end of the day hes made the final decision to walk away till thethe baby is born i hate to say it if he cant stand by u through thethe tough bit then i dont see why he then has the right to come along when the baby is born and stick his nose in you really r best off without him i know its hard now but it'll get easier when all you can do is think about the little piece of preciousness u do now have inside you! and belive me you'll meet some one so much better eventually i guarantee it. good luck hun and congratulationsxxxx if u need a chat were all here for u!

you have not forced him to be a dad if he did not want to be a dad then he should
not off played with fire (in mens language he should of keeped in his pants)
they do say no matter what you take to stop it happening it can still happen
my make had the pill the needle in her bum and he was covered and she still fell
they did not know to keep the baby or not in the end they did because it was meant to be
maybe be its meant to be for you both life does not stop because of a baby
its more fun yes you might need a babysitter some times but most poeple uses the nannys for that i am not that lucky i fell out with my mum and sis a year ago so i have to call on my sis inlaw
if he is going to be there for the baby then is he going to help you with
bigger clothes and baby things that you will need or is just after all the hugs and kiss of baby to make his self feel like a good daddy because my father did that and as i got bigger i told him hugs are no good when his never there when i need him

Hang in there hun, of corse it's hard no one can expect you to be over your feelings for the man over night, you've just go to hang in there for both of your sakes, *you and the baby i mean), i'm sure his attitude came as a massive shock to you,!!
Big hugs hun xxxxx

Hi Hun Only Mee :)
Sorry to hear that What a [censored] :(
Well like i said to you yesterday, you'll be a great mum on your own.
And im sure people on here and your friends and family will give you lots of advice and help you alot!
Like Sassy_1 said obv your not going to forget your feelings over night but you've just got to hang in there!
Good luck. Talk soon.
Ashleigh xx