Forum : Pregnancy

I think you should get on a train and move back to your family they will fully understand i'm sure. you don't need the added stress and you need all the money you can get your hands on. good luck stay positive. congrats on ypour pregnancy too. x

ring your family, get them to meet you at other end and get on a train fast sweetheart. sorry but people like that dont change. they get worse, iv been there. think of your situation as it is now and then add to that the stress of having two babies to look after on top. sleepless nights, no money, and the stress of your partner to. it might seem hard now but it will be three times as hard when the babies are born. good luck hun. xx

I have to say I agree with the other girls here. I think you need to get away now. If you wait til the babies are here it will be 10 times harder and you'll find yourself stuck. I'm sure you and your babies want more from life than this and I know you deserve to treated better. I know it's hard but make the clean break and go back to your family. Good luck and take care. x

Oh honey, I really feel for you. I came out of an abusive relationship a year and a half ago....it took me ages to leave him. I stayed for all sorts of reasons and it destroyed my self worth, plus I had put a massive strain on my relationship with my family because of him and so felt compelled to stay. I have to say it was extremely hard but the best thing I have ever done. I am now 8 weeks pregnant with my first baby and am with a wonderful man who has rebuilt my self esteem.
I know it must be even harder for you as you are already pregnant, but I would say follow your heart. Babies very rarely make a bad relationship better.
I am a drug counsellor and work with both women and men with drug and alcohol issues, I have heard people say they will change when the baby arrives but in my experience it rarely happens.
I hope you get something sorted. Be happy xx

Again I have to agree with the posts above!
I was in an abusive relationship about 4 years ago where I moved countries to get married and live with my partner. (He smoked and drank away all his and *my* money and I needed a lot of councelling when I finally left him and came home to England). I had tried to leave him several times when I lived in America with him but as all my friends were his friends, I didnt have many places to go and would always end up back with him. Needless to say our marriage only lasted a year and I was very lucky to have parents who welcomed me back - I was only 19 !!. But I have to say once I was free of that situation I knew it was the right thing to do and never felt happier. My life since then carried on getting happier and happier.
The experience I went through did make me stronger as it will make you stronger. But I'm sure you want to bring up your children in a happy stable environment. If he treats you this way, how will he treat them? I think when people have addiction problems that they have had over a long stretch of time it is almost impossible for them to change. You sound unhappy to have come and asked for advice on here. Listen to yourself darling - I'm sure you have the support of your family and t hey will welcome you and your bump back!!
I wish you all the best of luck and happiness. Your stronger than you think xx

ring your family hun if your skint n they now wat your going through im sure one of them will come n get you . its not healthy to be in such a relationship for u or ur unborn babies . wat if he hurts u whilst pregnant it can damage ur babies n ud never live withyourself n u definatly deserve better. put yourself first hun if u dont who will not him from the sounds of it. i wish you all the strength and luck in the world hun take care xxx

if u dont want to go to friends or family then u can always go to the council for help they might be able to find u emergency housing. but friends and family are there for a reason if u really want to leave this time get help to go back to ur family and then when u get there if u dont want to talk to him face to face then call him and let him no why u have left and that might scare him in to changing or he might never change but if he wont do it now i dont think he will wen baby gets here