Forum : Pregnancy

Hi tuffin, sounds serious, sounds like lots of differnt issues there, not sure i can give any effective advice but just wanted to show some support. Take one day at a time and try to deal with each child as an individual. and most important ensure you stay calm and healthy for the sake of your unborn child.

You've been together 5yrs, and are clearly very commited to each other, his family need to treat your husband like an adult who made his own adult decision to split from his ex (they need to step back so everyonr can move on). If i were you i would try my hardest not to show that they bother you. and focus on the children as they are the ones who are most vulnerable. best wishes.xxx

Wow Twuffin, sounds like you have a lot on your plate at the moment.

Like Leila, there are lots of different issues going on and my advice may not be sound either. Likewise though i offer supprt and an ear. It is always good to get out whats brewing especially when you are faced with a situation that seems to be one thats around you all of the time.

Financially, i think you will manage and i dont think there is ever a good time to financially have a baby, there will always be things you may want whatever your budget.

Try to keep yourself healthy though or it will take a toll on yours and babys health and it sounds like you and your husband need to be stronger than ever!

Unfortunately, i cannot comment on your husbands family and friends other than that you have to llok after your unit.

IM sorry i cannot offer any advice, but i truely hope that things improve for you. This should be a magical time for you, and i hope that you get to enjoy some of it.

All the best x

Hi there so sorry to hear about this its awful situation to be in anytime nevermind when you expecting! I know how you feel, when me and hubby got together his family had just started talking to him again after five years! And even we built lots of bridges especially with mother of his boys whole family still look at him like he is useless and a bad guy. We been together almost seven years now and five years ago his boys' mum tragically died so we dont have the issue of his mum favouring her and problems with access as they live with us but if she were still with us we would find it very hard and i would have felt that i shouldnt have a baby.
After all these years of various problems within his side of family I will say to you with regard to his mom that it gets to a point you dont want to try anymore, my husband many times has just given up and not cut them out but just ignored all the nastiness and stopped making an effort. Try to just focus on being there for the children and if she wants to treat you all like this then thats her loss and sounds like you not missing out on anything by not having dinner with her. Yes its hard on the children but as long you and partner are there for them just focus on that. Sorry if this not much help it is hard situation to be in try not to let it get you down focus on your new bump and the kids not all the family probs xx