Forum : Pregnancy

I'm sorry to hear that he's left you but of course yo'll manage! I know your saying your 18 and clueless but believe me when i say i'm 32 and clueless!
Your family will help you and don't listen to anybody about being a young and single mum. It won't make you a bad mum. Good luck xx

Hi Milli, we are all clueless when it comes to being a mum for the first time no matter how old we are lol so don't worry about that! Its all a learning process and we all seem to muddle through somehow!
Does your partner want to be involved with the baby at all?
Its great that you have your family to support you through this, I'm sure that you will be fine - it won't be easy but being a parent isn't easy for any of us.
Plus this is a great forum if you have any concerns about anything in your pregnancy or after the baby has arrived so you'll never be on your own!
Congratulations and the best of luck :-)))xx

yes we are all definitely clueless! i had my first baby at 26 yrs old and i am now 33+2 weeks pregnant with our second baby at almost 30 years old and this time round may as well be the first time as it is so different to my first pregnancy.
the important thing is to have support and you will do just fine. my sister had her first baby at 22 and her partner left her. he then came back when her first baby was 6mths old, she got pregnant again and then he left again so she did it all on her own with 2 children. they are now 5 1/2 and 4 years old and my sister did just fine (her and her partner are now back together).
be positive and think of your baby, you will be ok! congratulations and good luck x

Thanks you guys! :) It's so nice to hear reassurance!
He does want something to do with the baby, but he'll almost never be around as he works in a different country now. I helped him get over there financially but I ended up coming back home to live as he was always calling me this and that and threatening me! I'm very annoyed with myself that it has taken this much for me to realise what a horrible person he is! I have told him that he is having nothing to do with my baby because when we broke up he told me that I was only ever good for money... There has also been a history of violence in our relationship. But silly me, went running back to him and found myself in the situation I am today... I don't want a person like that involved with my child. I hope you don't think I'm being to hasty with him?
Thank you for the above comments, you've really made me feel a lot more positive about the situation! :) xxx

if violence was involved then no i certainly dont think you are being hasty and i wouldnt want somebody like that around my children either.
he would have to seriously prove himself to me before i would let someone like that near my baby and even then i'd still be hesitant.
glad you are feeling more positive. i'm not going to lie, it isnt easy having children even if you are in a relationship (my partner and i have been together for just over 12 years, our daughter is 3 1/2 yrs old and baby 2 is due in 7 weeks and even with him being so fantastic and supportive, it still puts a strain on our relationship when we are both tired), but you will do what is best for your child and that, at the end of the day, is what matters most. x

Aw thank you so much! I'm just getting a hard time from him for being against letting him have any contact.
It means so much to me to have you guys telling me that everything will be okay!
I'm a massive worrier anyway, but you all have really made me believe I can do this now! :)) I just need to try and stop stressing! x thank you so much x

hi milli, im amanda, im 20 yr's old and pregnant with my 3rd baby, i no how you feel about not being able to cope as i had my first baby 2weeks and 1 day after my 16th birthday, he is nearly 5 then i had my daughter at 18 but you learn as time goes on and it does easier so trust me you will be fine and like the other's said if you need any advise you no were we are and as for your ex, well what can i say i thinks its well out of order, no man should ever raise a hand to a woman, im just so glad you are free of him now and that you and YOUR baby are safe, also i think your doing the right thing about not letting him see the baby once he/she is born and if he try's to take you to court then please tell them about hin hitting you and insist on supervised visits and a day care centre just to put you and you baby in safe place when he is around.

good luck and CONGRATULATIONS. remember we are all here if you need to talk xxx

Hi milli, you will be fine im sure i know at the mo its scary but you can do this.Ive just had a 5 month old baby and noe splitting up with my husband as he cheating we bin 2gether 4 10 years and im scared too as ive never lived on my own let alone on my own with a baby.You really dont need violence especially with a baby once, and always remember you will always have your baby who will love you and that love is unconditional look 4ward 2 you future and we are all here 4 each other take care xxxx

Hi everyone x
Aw you guys are so lovely! Everything you have all said is just what I wanted to hear! He keeps emailing me, trying to make up but I'm taking no notice! Better off without, hey!? :)
He had actually been charged about a year ago because of the violence against me, as a friend of mine had to get the police involved - it got that bad!
Honestly though guys, you have made me so much happier and at ease about the situation! :) I thank you all so much!
Ella May Mummy - I'm really sorry to hear about your partner! You don't deserve that. No one does x
Thank you all again! I appreciate the support! :)) xxx

Sounds like a typical bully, trying to make up now that he thinks you don't want him anymore. You'll be fine, I think you've had a lucky escape and the baby too, imagine if he'd been violent in front of them - or even worse to them.
You sound like a very strong woman and very mature too if I can say that without sounding patronising (I'm 41 by the way!!) so I'm sure that you will cope brilliantly xx