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no one should bully you!!! its your baby and your partners. if he isnt sticking up for you then tell him he needs to!!! my sister keeps picking on me at the minuet but people just say disown the people are making it hard for you!! and maybe you will have to, as you need to think about your little one. hope things go better soon for you. best of luck....p.s just ignore them, they aint worth it hun x

Hi, really sorry that your in-laws are horrid! They sound completely pathetic! And sorry but your boyfriend is a complete [censored] if he isn't sticking up for you! Firstly sit him down, tell him exactly how you feel and that his priority should be you and your baby, you are his family now and he needs to realise that. Secondly this is clearly stressing you so you really need to stop associating with these horrid people. Refuse to go over there and if they came to visit your boyfriend just take yourself out or go upstairs. Perhaps Mention to them that if they do not improve drastically then they will not be seeing their grandchild. How dare they bully you! As for the friends, try and keep them as they are really important for support, perhaps just explain to them that as you are pregnant you really could do with their support and not their judgement and you want to give it a go with your boyfriend as he is the father and you don't want to be doing this on your own. I really hope it gets better for you! Take care xx

hi Hun , i am in the same situation my partners mum and sister hate me and dont believe my partner is the father of the baby,and refuse to be involved with baby until they have proof. its so hard at times especially when we all live in the same village, i really wont them to apart of the babys life but i cant see it working at all when they cant even be nice for the babys sake, i tell my partner i dont mind not being there friends but why cant we all get on but there having none of it. i am not even aloud round to my partners mums house as she says she cant even speak to me or be in the same room as me. I hope for it gets easier for you hun xxx

Hi,

That's awful you must be feeling so hurt, it's emotional enough being pregnant let alone having to deal with that. I found best way to deal with them is speak to your partner but do it in such a way that he realises you are the victim. When we have ever had issues with the in laws I found if I moaned I ended up being the one in the wrong, he needs to see just how upset you are and what it's doing to you and the baby. Once my OH saw how much they were upsetting me and driving a wedge between us, he fought my corner and even when to be honest I was i the wrong. It sounds daft but hopefully once he sees what it's doing his protective instincs should kick in. I hope you are ok x