Forum : Pregnancy

Hi amy how awful, & so sad!
I know this sounds selfish but you must put yourself first, you cant afford to dwell on highly stressfull situations.

and when you baby arrives in a week or two you'll feel amazing. Trust me! xxx

I keep tryin to focus on baby and to be fair hubby is doing good of that txting me while hes away saying how things will be so much better once baby here n how he cant wait to see me holding it (sorry no other word as we having a suprise!) its just hard with my dad living by himself n he got a cold so not been able to go see my uncle (his little bro) so he calling me a few times a day and usually i would be there for eveyone and finding that hard that I cant be. Yeah i do need to be selfish if im gonna snap out of it, feelin a bit better just for sharing tbh. Im at midwife tomorrow so that should cheer me up hearing heartbeat then my mom coming over to see me so I should be ok its just reali hard.
Thank you for posting xxx

Hi Amy

I just had to respond to your post... although i dont know how much good i will be.... Like Leila-kay you do need to put yourself first.... It is hard not being able to be there for everybody when your so used to being there (im the same) and it is hard to take a step back.... and some people will comment about not being able to speak to you... BUT you have to think of yourself and your baby.
It so nice to hear that your OH is supporting you (some OH dont know how to!!).... please take some time out... there will b plenty of time to help others but for now think of you.

Sorry if this seems a ramble and i hope everything comes right xx

hi amy, i can relate to you in some way
when i was pregnant i think i was around 37 weeks, my mother in law had cancer and had a fit and ended up on life support, anyway to cut a long story short we ended up nealry homeless, moving just before my son was born and was told she would die anyday but she fought on until my son was 3 weeks old
so i know how you feel, i ended up very ill from worrying and not sleeping, so i agree with the above posts, do try and stay calm, i know this sounds awful, but i remember having to think like it, but worrying wont make the situation better and you need to try and get some rest for the birth, stay strong, and i really hope things pick up for you

just remember, money isn't everything (ps i had all my money taken not long back like you, i got it back) your car will sell, and your uncle is in good hands) make sure you get support of family and talk to them

sending you a big hug xx

Thank you so much for the advice ladies it means a lot to me xx

Aww...thinking of you and do keep us posted. Lovage.xxxx

Thank you. Its not looking good for my uncle, dad rang me in tears last night as they had to operate to relieve the swelling from his brain but they really struggling to control it. They say likelihood of a positive outcome is slim and I am praying they are just preparing us for the worst but as they been trying everything it seems like they may get to a point when they switch him off. I'm doing better with more rest and trying not to think about it all the time but its heart breaking. Hoping my dad will be here to see me today before he goes over to hospital. Than you for all your messages it means alot xxxx

i hope everything goes well with your uncle and everything else i'm very sorry to here about it all. your little man or little girl will be here in just a couple of weeks to cheer you up :) make sure your eating healthy if your worrying a lot you might not realise what your eating if you get me and you need all the energy you can get in these last couple of weeks , keep yourself well. everything will be fine in the end xx

Again thank you all for messages. I'm still eating alot so dont worry! I went over and stayed with my dad for a night then we both went over to hospital and then stayed with my aunt for a night. Did me good to see him and spend time with my dad and aunt they both needed some company. The whole thing is just horrible all we can do is wait until the swelling on his brain drops low enough for them to start bringing him around but no change after a week so its not looking very good. Its all on the left side of his brain and they think that if he comes out of this he will have 70% of his brain function, no one knows which 30% will be lost though. I'm feeling better and like you say my bundle will be here soon to spread some joy around xx

Just to update a little. . Baby Charlie Andrew was bprn exactly 7 days early on 18th Jan after I thoguht he would never engage, turns out I was in labour for 13/14hrs beofre my waters broke but I got high pain threshold n thought was just aching a bit until when i rang my mum she worked out was having contractions every 5 min! I only had diamorphine n no gas n air progressed great no screaming until epidural due but I was all ready ten cm n no anaesthatist so strated pushing n he just would move down n started breathing really slow they delivered him via forceps, but didnt numb me for stitches !!!!!!!!!!!! horrifying serious;y he sewed for twenty min beofre he believed that no all I can feel is not JUST pulling I was screaming. Lost maximum amm of blood allowed beofre transfusion aswell. Twelve hours after I was told that my uncle mentioned in post above would have to have life support swithced off. Far too much for me to cope with. Charlie was breastfed perfect for three days (still in hospital) however I was having alot of problems with blood loss didnt get given iron for two days ! midwives had to advise that to prevent pnd after four days of only 1hr sleep that I give up breast so that I can have help. On top of the trauma of stiches, the hormones and death of my uncle I was beside myself. Its too much. I had to just leave my breasts they said 24hrs for milk to stop (bull) he fed perfect noo issues with milk so was absolute agony until today! every time he gets picked up he would root n my boobs would just pour n I would just cry. And my husband had only 3 days off n that was while I was in hospital. Im a wreck. he got used to having hospitals ready made bottles for two days n then had to come home n do normal ones, turns out we doing that wrong n midwife said today she would not have a job if Iwe carried on and Charlie got seriously ill! Even more guilt. Im fine once he up n needs changing/feeding I just cant swithc of while he sleeping im on edge all time its awful. My stiches have parted to heal on their own which is hard n antibiotics gave me awful runs. Im such a mess. Someone tell me that soon I will wake up and not be like this? Hoping after funeral out way wil be beter. I dont know im just such a mess he is perfect and everyone commments on that and I cant seem to give myself any credit. its awful really i need to be able to sleep wjen he does just cant seem to switch off at all.