Forum : Pregnancy

Hi there.... As ur having a rought pregnancy it isnt suprising u feel low.

I myself have had 4 bleeds/spotting (6 weeks, 9 weeks, 15 weeks, and 19 weeks), along with a vomiting virus (was dehydrated n very nearly admitted to hospital).

On top if this i have been made redundent (finish tomorrow) and cannot find another job.
Coz of this i have felt low, and while i was off work poorly spent much of this in bed as was so exhausted from worry and illness. I have been feeling down, and tearful, but am lucky to have a supportive partner, altho0ugh i dont always tell him everything as he worries all the time.

If i was you i would speak to your midwife, or GP (i spoke to my GP and cried who signed me off work for a week and i relaxed). I found that some of the cause was worry (due to loosing job and bleeds) and spent time relaxing and making time for me.

Im sorry i havent been of more help, but like i said i would speak to your modwife, a close friend etc if you cant speak to your partner.

I hope you start feeling better soon xx

Hi its not suprising that you feel like this after the bleeding and feeling you cant talk about how you feel. You need to try and not worry, sounds like you are putting alot of pressure on yourself and from your partner too. Just because you pregnant doesn't mean you have to be having best time of your life, its a hard time with everything happening to your body and the sickness will be making you feel even more crappy. I would tell all this to your midwife with out your partner and just by doing that im sure you will feel better, and like Amy says if you spoke to your gp you would get signed off work so maybe do that aswell and take some time to rest and relax.
It is stressfull being pregnant even without having any complications. I was signed off work twice with exhaustion and stress at around 20 weeks and in A&E twice then came back to work to be told i was no longer allowed to carry on doing my job as it was a health risk so had to move departments and I was feeling really really low about that and kept on making myself worse by focusing on what they say about how what you feel the baby feels. But after they told me that I had to rest and relax I chilled out a little and just focused on looking after me and the bump. I really hope you feel better soon, and find it in yourself to talk about how you feel, and look after yourself n baby you deserve it!

Thanks ladies !! I have another midwife appoint due on the 11th so im sure i will be ok till then. i do worry a lot about things and i know i shouldnt but i just cant help it!! silly i know. im not working just now so its no too bad. This is my partners first baby and he cant quite grasp a lot of the pregnacy things that go on . Guess when u have done it before u know what to expect but its all new to him. we havent seen much of each other at all thsi week as i have been asleep by the time he gets home and then he is at work all day. im def feeling less unwell today but i am still very tired. things will get better i guess its just gonna take time !! Thanks again tho :) xx

The best thing to do is to try and just take each day as it comes.... you will be feeling shattered for a few weeks, but this will ease.... you may find that your partner isnt being supportive more so due to worrying himself about the pregnancy and not knowing what is going on...... might be worth to sit and talk with him, but on mutual ground???
Everyone worries during theiir pregnancy whether its your first second or third, and most mums worries will be very similar.
Try not to worry too much, and im sure things will right itself and you will start feeling better xx

Hope you feeling better, I went thru same with the tiredness and my hubby was being same with workin all time but after we talked turned out he was really realy worried about me n bump with us always needing sleep! So probably he scared something wrong but he just need reassurance that its normal for you to feel that way. Good that you got time off work jujst try relax and rest you should get energy back soon xx