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Pregnancy blues

so so depressed?!! is this normal??

I'm new to this but I've got a problem, I'm so so depressed it's unreal!! I'm just 9wks pregnant & I've read that pregnancy blues are normal due to a surge of hormones but yesterday I cried solid for 3hrs & couldn't stop, my partner just walks out the house as he cant cope with me so I'm left on my own which makes me worse although I really cant blame him as I'm turning into an evil monster!! Is there anything I can do, should I tell my midwife, this is my 1st pregnancy & although I'm happy & looking forward to being a mum I cant shake this depression. Does anyone have any suggestions or advise, anything now would be greatly appreciated believe me!!! xx

 

Posted on 18/05/2008 08:29:00

It is normal and you have a few more weeks of it yet I'm afraid.

Don't worry though, your hormones do send your body into chaos. You can do a few things to improve your mood though, make sure you continue with things you enjoy and get plenty of rest - tiredness doesn't help either.

You will still have irrational moments throughout anyway :)

If you are worried, go and speak to your GP but I am sure many of the ladies here will point out that we have all had our crazy moments.... You aren't alone

Hope you feel happier soon
Caz xx

Posted on 18/05/2008 09:13:08

Hiya, just wanted to say I had the same too! I never experienced this with my first pregnancy, so it was a bit of a shock when it kicked in around week 8. I thought something must be terribly wrong, as I never felt this way before. I cried for hours, anything and everything made me cry. Even when I wasn't crying, I just felt really low. I'm now 16wks pregnant and I feel absolutely fab and really looking forward to meeting my baby :) Just wan't to say you're not alone, lots of people feel like you - and it won't last forever. Sarah x

Posted on 21/05/2008 13:12:00

Same here hun your not alone went through all that myself an even now at 30weeks i get depressed its those bloody hormones.If u feel as if your getting worse go to c your doctor an they might suggest a few things 4 u.hope you feel better soon.x

Posted on 21/05/2008 14:33:29

It's the hormones hun, you'll have so more up's and downs before then end, don't worry about it try to go with the flow xxx

Posted on 21/05/2008 19:48:20

yeah unfortunately it happens to a lot of pregnant women, when i was pregnant i spent a whole might sobbing and wanting my mum! i bet my partner wanted to sleep downstairs that night...he didnt say so tho lol! you will soon come out of it and feel loads better,good luck with your pregnancy xxx

Posted on 22/05/2008 11:31:22

Hi, sorry to intrude but I am so interested to be reading this. I am 25 weeks pregnant and just cant stop crying. My parents are being fab, but my husband is struggling with me. I just cant buck myself out of it and feel guilty cos i shouldnt be feeling like this, i have been given the most valuable thing and i should be on top of the world. Dont get me wrong, i cant wait and am very excited about the baby, but i am scared at the same time. I am worried i wont be a good mum (this is my first) and am also scared of the birth. I keep trying to do things that i enjoy but obviously being skint doesnt help. We have a gorgeous house, so i really shouldnt be upset, but i just cant stop crying. And the more help and encouragement my parents give me the more upset i get cos i feel guilty. What the hell is wrong with me?!

Posted on 23/05/2008 14:52:16

dillypep i couldnt agree more, i just cant stop crying...every day is a battle, i know i shoyuld be thankful, its a wonderful gift an so many people cant get pregnant. like you im scared, this is my first an im terrified at the thought of giving birth!
Im having loads of stress at the mo which im sure is not helping the depression, i was living with a friend of a friend who got themselves evicted, but only told me last week that i had to move out by today. ive only just moved to this area to be near my partner an save for our own place...to sum it up, im in a new city, new job, no friends and am bloody hormonal! i dont wanns say anythin to the midwife, shes prob just heard it 1000s times before an whatever she says wont make me feel any better. I really just want my mum!! God how depressin do i sound?! I wish i could snap out of it!

Posted on 02/06/2008 21:13:01

hi,wow i think we all feel the same im 26+ and i was so depressed last night i just said to my hubby i dont want to live anymore im in such a state i cried for hours,this morning im up writing this at 6.45am and im fine,looking forward to another day,sorting the kids out etc,i just dont know what turns your brain like this(well hormones yes)but it doesnt seem quite normal.heres hoping we can all get over it soon,take care

Posted on 03/06/2008 06:48:24

im the same.im at a big time low at the minute and its lasted a few days.i cant seem to get anything done in our house because so much needs doing and time is running out.hubby is being no help no matter how many times i ask for it.i can barely get him to do the coupld of jobs he has in the house.i become more and more guilty because i cant give my little girl the attention she deserves and i walk into the kitchen to get her a drink and all i see are the 20 million jobs that need to be done and right now everything is going wrong.the car is falling apart the kitchen cupboards are breaking under thestairs is falling apart the garden looks like a dump site and it drops me down even more.

hubby just blames the hormones and says you will be fine get yourself a chocolate bar from the shop.shame it doesnt work that easily huh.

Posted on 12/06/2008 22:13:02

i'm 14wks now, its easing up slightly but i'm still getting them hours or even days where i cant believe how bad i feel about everything, i feel so selfish and guilty because i'm kinda resenting being pregnant, my life has changed where as my partner is still going out getting drunk, waking me up when he comes in at stupid o'clock in the morning, i never thought it would be like this which is whats making me worse, dont get me wrong i am happy the majority of the time and i cant wait to meet my baby but this feelings are hard to cope with, guess after reading most of these replies that its part an parcel of being pregnant an that helps knowing its not just me that feels this way, as for men then like my mum says, they'll never understand unless they went through it themselves an that aint gona happen anytime soon eh!! x

Posted on 19/06/2008 14:03:02

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