Forum : Pregnancy

Hi i'm 14 weeks and im just starting to come round to the idea of having another child (i think my scan helped) I too have felt very down and one minute did want the baby and the next i wasnt sure, also terriffied of labour (had a bad time with my last child) I spoke to my GP who made an appointment to speak to who is now my midwife who has been a great help putting things in perspective she has also made an appointment for me to speak to the labour ward manager to talk about my last labour and put things in place to hopefully not have the same experience i think what helped the most was that they have listen to me and not made me feel stupid or guilty for how i feel. I'm now feeing much better and i still have a little wobble but its not as bad and will hopefully keep getting better. But your not on your own and i'm sure other people have felt just the same hope this helps x

firstly congrats on your pregnancy! So sorry that you feeling like this its awful for you. I'm really really down at the moment but its not the pregnancy. Im 38 weeks. I think with you only being in second month has alot to do with it as I didnt calm down until I had had both 12wk and 20wk scans as that made it all real for me but you really really need to talk to your gp and/or mw about how low you are feeling so they can support n reassure you. Does your fiance know how you feeling aswell? Even if its just your gp you speak to it will do you good and also if they dont know they cant help you. Always easier said than done when this low but you need to try reassure yourself that its normal to feel this way dont beat yourself up about it your hormones will be all over place. Hope you can get some help and support and start to feel better soon xxx

Thank you very much for your responses, I was a bit nervous at sharing my feelings as a feel like a bit of a let down as Im normaly such a maternal person. My fiance knows how I feel and is very supportive as are his family, I am very close to his mum and I really do have a great support network. I just feel very guilty about talkingf to them about this as they are all so excited about thye pregnancy. My fiance is a fantastic father to my daughter but she is not his and this is the first time hes been through a pregnancy and a birth and I feel I am spoiling it for him when Im so down. I think it all mainly stems from this massive fear of labour, I had it with my daughter but not till the end of the pregnancy and I never spoke to anyone about it. When we started trying for this baby I just assumed that going through the birth would make me realise I could do it and would cope better but instead Ive been swamped by panic attacks and nightmares. My midwife GP wasnt overly helpful so Im just hoping my moods will lift with the scan and hopefully I will get more joy talking over these fears with the midwife. Thank you very much for replying, its made a diffrence just to know Im not the only one with these feelings xxx

Hi hun dont feel ashamed, i am currently 5 and half weeks pregnant with my third (due beg sept). my other 2 are 14 and 11, i know how you feel, i feel the same, one minute im ok and excited and the next i feel like crying or i am so moody and feel like what am i doing. I think mine is the fact that i feel sick on and off, my boobs hurt, kids arguing lol and that there is such a big age gap, my kids will be 15 and 12 when this one is born. so im guessing this is normal, i never felt like this with my other 2 either. Hope we feel better soon. xxxxx

Hi i like you found out i was pregnant before attending the fertility clinic i had all but given up hope after nearly 2 years of trying. Anyway you would think i would be ecstatic but all i keep thinking is awful things like - the labour ( which i had horrendous time first time round) can i go through it again do i have the strength? My little girl is 7 so i had my life back, going out, holidays, career going well etc and feel this baby has come at the wrong time, why should i think this when i wanted it? Plus the sickness has been awful, i am drained and look a mess all the time, not enjoying it at all. I feel guilty for feeling this way as i guess you do. I am hoping my scan tomorrow will put me on a better road. I had PND with my first and i suppose i am scared i will go that way again. It does help to talk and let it out though and share what you are feeling and know that you are normal, pregnancy isnt all rose tinted world as shown in these magazines and books. What i keep thinking is this - this wont last forever this is a blip of emotions and one day we will look back at ourselves and wonder why we ever felt this way. Chin up and hugs to you xxx

hi everyone i'm new on here today,im 7+5 with my 3rd. My other kids are 6 and 14. i feel incredibly low eventhough me and my husband want the baby. i feel terrified and unsure if i can cope.i feel sick and ill,tired and achey. i'm glad im not alone. congrats everyone x