Forum : Pregnancy

hi there.
I'm sorry to hear how your feeling but your definatly not alone, which may make you feel a little better.
I'm 8 weeks pregnant and i've been feeling so horrid lately, i expected my first pregnancy to be the happiest time of my life and all i''ve done is worry, cry and yell at anyone that comes near me, i feel so down and not really sure what to do. like yourself i know that i am happy to be pregnant and to become a mum but have no idea why i feel like this. i thought i'd misscarried 2 weeks ago but all is good, and i also have very high blood pressure which my doctor dosen't seem to worried about now that they've passed me on to an obstetrician whome i've still not heard off, which dose make me feel quite alone.
maybe we just need to tell someone close how we feel like a friend and hopefully they'll give us the support and comfort of knowing that everything is going to be ok.
sorry if all i've done is whinge about how i feel. i hope you feel better soon.

Hello, Just thought i'd let you know that I have felt exactly the same since I got pregnant, it was planned and is my second, my first child is 20 months old. Don't know whether I am feeling guilty for her or just really scared about coping with 2, but I have felt down alot. My hubbie feels that I don't want this baby which isn't true, I just feel that I'm just about getting some normality back and I'm going to be right back at the start again, but this time with a terrible 2 as well!! I cried through most of my 1st trimester but I think it has alot to do with hormones but now I'm nearing the end I just feel panicky. Its hard work trying to put on a brave face and I know I'll cope when number 2 is here but for now its fear of unknown.

Hi All

I am 23 weeks and can't stop crying. I told the midwife today and she looked very concerned! Which of course made me think is this the start of PND? Great! Its so good to hear others are the same as me! I love my baby and am genuinely excited but seem to worry about everything from money to the wellbeing of the baby - am I alone??!!

I am 13 weeks pregnant and feel the same. I cry all the time for no reason and just want to sleep to pass the time. Up until my 12 week scan I put it down to worrying that something may go wrong, I just had this feeling of impending doom even before I found out I was pregnant that something really bad was going to happen, but couldn't explain it. If anything goes wrong at all I snap at people and either shout or cry. Ive found I cant concentrate on anything, am finding work a nightmare when I actually go in, and there is no reason for it. I am so excited and happy to be pregnant, and I wouldnt want it any other way, the pregnancy was planned, I know I have nothing to be unhappy about and should be thankful that so far everything seems fine with baby as a lot of others aren't so lucky. Normally if I feel a little down there is a real reason for it, so I can do something about it, but as these is no actual reason it seems hard to stop it. I think sometimes you feel guilty for feeling down, and when pregnancy is supposed to be such a happy time its hard to talk to people close to you as you worry that they will think you dont really want your baby, or maybe that you are just ungrateful for how lucky you are.
It is really helpful to find other people who feel the same who you can feel wont judge you for feeling like this. My Mum just told me i sold just get on with it and stop making a fuss, I really have tried but it dosent seem to be that easy. Does anyone have any tips on overcoming depression? I usually go for a long run, or take my horse out cross country but can do any of these things any more.
Hope you are all doing ok. I am going to see my midwife next week so will ask then, and will let everyone know if she suggests anything useful.
Keep smiling :)

I felt the same too and still do my midwife was a cow too but i plucked up the courage to ask to get her changed and i see a knew one next week.Please just remember you are not alone.If it would help give me your email address and we can talk.

hi my names lisa, im 30 weeks pregnant and am new to this. i dont usually post but i saw this and thought i would.

i cry most days due to stress from several things and unhappy home life. although i have a lovely fiance who loves me to bits i keep pushing him away and worry that one day he will of had enough. i feel so bad for doing this but i cnt help it.

i find it hard to talk to people about this and havnt mentioned to my midwife that im finding things are very difficult. so thought i would try this and see if anyone else felt the same.

thanks x

Hi, I am seven weeks pregnant and have been having a rough last few weeks. My baby was planned too, I really wanted to get pregnant and was over the moon with the positive result. However, this seemed to be short lived and I find my self crying for now reason, and feeling unable to cope. This hasn't been helped by terrible morning sickness. I feel really guilty as I know people who can't get pregnant so I should be happy. I am pretty sure that I will be OK when the baby is born, but I am not enjoying pregnancy so far. I just hope I feel better later on. Don't think you are alone, its an enormous time of change for a woman both mentally and physically. If you want to cry, cry, its allowed. Don't be too hard on yourself. Just because your sad, doesn't make you a bad person or not want your baby.

I'm just over 9 weeks and get blue and teary. However, depression has always played a part in my life, so the feelings are not new, even though I was doing so well before. The one thing that has always helped me is exercise. Find something that you can do and try to do it regularly, even if it means just throwing an older child into a stroller and going for a good walk each day. It helps to produce chemicals in your brain that over rid the hormones effect. Also understand when you need a rest. I found the tiredness that I have been feeling does not help and made sure that I rested, it meant making changes to my work, but I have to come first! When you start to find things that help yourself, you feel less like a vicitm. Don't listen to anyone that tells you to "just get on with it". They just don't inderstand what it's like. Hope this post is of help to some of you as I am sure depression is new to you and a bit of a shock. Hope after having the baby, your symptons go away. :)

Im 39 weeks pregnant and have had a rough pregnancy. through out i have felt low and have constantly cried. For reason's i have no idea why. Things wind me up for no reason and i really dont wnt to be around people. I dont answer the phone as i cant be bothered with a conversion and put off meeting up with friends as it seems to much of a chore, I hate feeling like it, but cant stop it. I was at one point looking forward to haveing the baby and now i feel as though i dont care.
everyone is really excited and feel icant say anything incase they start a huge long conversation and i cant be doing with it. Some times people are really excited and i feel like i have to pretend that i am too, and i think to myself ,'if your that excited you have the baby'.
If any one feels the same or has any advice on what to do i would greatly appreciate any advice, i dont want to feel like this any more.
Sorry for droaning on x

I'm 32 weeks pregnant and have also had a pretty rough time right through - hyperemesis to 20 weeks and then a few weeks break before sickness returning. The last 6 weeks or so I have been in a huge depression and constnat crying and eventually went and spoke to midwife who was OK but just said to focus on end result. Dr signed me off work for a couple of weeks which does help. Hubby doesn't help when he says your ONLY pregnant not ill - would love to see them try it for a few weeks. I feel like I just want to go to sleep for the next 8 weeks and wake up when I'm in labour, just can't face the next few weeks feeling the same way, but there really is no other option now. I too have cut off friends, mum and sis as can't be bothered speaking and fed up talking all the time about baby - I'm still a person here! I think the only way to get through it is by focusing on the end result and trying to talk to partner...

Good luck x