Forum : Pregnancy

Hi nic, I'm so sorry for your loss. What did the doctors say about trying again? If there is no medical reason why you should wait they normally say wait for one normal period before trying but that is mainly to be able to date the pregnancy if it happens straight away. I lost a baby girl at 15 weeks three years ago and we waited 3 months before trying again but that was mainly to give us time to grieve properly rather than to let my body get back to normal.
If your doctor says you can try as soon as you feel ready then I would just take your time, let yourself grieve for the baby you have lost and you will know when you are ready to try again.
Please don't feel bad about ruining xmas for your families, it's not your fault, unfortunately these things happen and sometimes we never know the reason. We found out at 11 weeks that there was a problem with our baby and she died at 15 weeks of heart failure caused by downs. We now have a wonderful little boy who is 18 months old and our whole world. Just take your time and it will happen for you when the time is right xxx

thanks buffy, the docs all had different things to say. we have been told we get to bury our baby which i hope will help with the grieving process but i feel so empty and need to be pregnant again. the doctors have promised all sorts of support if i get pregnant again which i hope will ease the fears of miscarrying again.

iv never been in this situation but i wanted to say that u shud definately not feel guilty its not ur fault. altho i can imagine that thats easy for me to say and not easy to do!
i rele feel terrible for you, and i pray u will soon have a wonderful healthy pregnancy!!
xx

Hi Nic, so sorry to hear what you have been through, especially at this time of year. I had a miscarriage at the beginning of October at 6 weeks, luckily I did not have to have an procedures done. I asked at the time and was told that for me personally there was no reason for waiting before trying again (though like Buffy said they do prefer you 2wait until after period for dating purposes) I had a normal period at start of November and am now nearly 8 weeks pregnant, I was fretting alot to begin with but everyday I grow more confident that things will be ok this time. I am glad you have support from your partner and def don't feel guilty about xmas. You may find that people dont know what to say or do so say nothing but try to not let that get on top of you. Talk to your partner or some of us mums here who have experience it, but definately don't be ashamed of your feelings. Sending my best wishes and thinking of you x x

thanks girls it does help talking to people who have been there too. suz@nne did you get a period before falling pregnant again. or did you just try right away? i had no pain day after d&c but severe 2 days later. so i want to try as soon as i feel better. i know im only 3 days post op but i need to be doing something positive. sweetiemummy all prayers welcome cause im leaving everything in gods hands now..

Hi nic, we started trying straight away again but I did have 1 normal period in November. I am a definate believer in fate so for me personally I just felt for whatever reason it just wasn't my time, I just feel blessed that i was given another chance! Do you have any other children? I have a 3 year old boy and he kept me going through the hard times. I hope your pain eases soon and you can get some comfort in the words of others x x

no i have no other children, this was my first attempt with my fiance. we have decided to just continue with no precautions and what will be will be. my fear is my age im 37 and hoping this wont affect my chances of ttc again. it only took 3 months last time. so fingers crossed.. and yes i am getting comfort on here thank you

ps. happy new year too all of you on here that have suffered and really hope that 2012 brings us all the happiness we deserve.

Hi nic, I lost my baby 2 days before I turned 38, and my son was born the month before I turned 40 so don't lose hope. 37 isn't old - I'm 41 now and we are trying for another xx

Please keep positive and do not give up hope! I believe that if it is meant to be it will happen for you. I really hope things turn out well for you. I agree with buffy that you def are not old and the fact that you fell pregnant quickly last time is a good sign. I really hope that you are on here soon telling us some good news x x