Forum : Pregnancy

hi hon... i've not long had my girl. and although i'm the opposite and decided i wanted to breastfeed my midwife was very pushy with it and i've ended up expressing anyway!
dont let them get ya down though its up to you at the end of the day. i was bottle fed
and so were all my family.this is your baby dont let anyone make you feel like youre a bad mum ok. good luck babes x

hey hun i know exactly how you feel they just dont seem to get the hint do they lol when i met my health visitor she was so nice and said it was my choice how i wanted to feed my baby when he's born but when i see my mw i feel like im being told how i should look after my baby when he gets here and treated like a kid who cant make her decisions i just tend to ignore the remarks she makes now i know how i want my baby being fed so just enjoy the rest of pregnancy life =] xx

Lol Im glad it isnt just me! It seems a lot of women feel the same way, as I said I have absolutely nothign against women who breastfeed, its entirely their choice. I just feel that for me its not the right thing, my husband works very funny hours, and often works nights so Ill get no help of a night time and the last thing i need is not been able to get any help on the few nights he has off when I can get a bit of sleep, he also wants to be able to take baby out for the day while Im home resting of catching up on other things which need doing which he wouldnt be able to do if i breastfed, it just annoys me lol! I feel like you have it pushed down your throat, I had one horrible consultant who made me feel rubbish about it, really cornered me, in the end i said "oh im going back to work as soon as the baby is born" a blatent lie just to shut him up!!! haha Im more worried about when baby is actually born, I can cope with it now,I can say oh go away leave me alone, but I worry they'll be pushy in the hospital when Im tired and stressed and vulnerable and be pushed into "trying it", and if baby latches on, im pretty much stuck to it then!

if there pushy in the hospital get your husband to say you have both chosen to formula feed so that you can share feeding duties. If you both stick together i am sure the staff will except your decision. You have to be happy with your feeding method. I breastfed for 6 weeks and physically couldn't do it anymore as my son was constantly feeding and i was exhaused and i found it hard to express, so I had to give him formula and we were much better and happy that i wish i had done it earlier!!!! I did get a few comments from people saying i should carry on breastfeeding, But i knew that. You know what way is gonna suit you and baby so you do what pleases you and not worry what other people say. All the best xxx

thank you for your comments :) I was a bit worried saying anything about breastfeeding cause in my own experience a lot of women who do breastfeed get all uppity with people when they say they dont want to (dont get me wrong I dont mean every single mum who breastfeeds, but some people are like that), and I was a bit worried Id be shunned or told off lol. Silly really!!!

Yes I have a friend who tried breastfeeding and she was very tired breastfeeding and couldnt do anything as baby was always feeding and she stopped and got moaned at by lots of people for it, but as you say its your own choice, just wish some medical people would see it that way! lol :)

hi i found that with my son they were very pushy. i always knew i didnt want to breast feed but every midwife appointment i knew it would be brought up.
i suppose its their job to try and push it but its your choice.
dont worry too much though as when i was in labour they asked me how i wanted to feed him and i said bottle. they dont have the time there to argue with you.
you feed your baby quite soon after their born so you wont have that arguement there.
my only advise would be to stay strong and ignore them. your baby you choice!! :-)

Hi hun,
I've bottle-fed my 2 sons so know exactly what u mean!
My mam was fine as I was bottle-fed but got a little grief off the in-laws at first. To be fair, the nurses & midwifes were always totally fine with me & in the hospital.
It was other people who have breast-fed that tended to have a 'go' and some on here! but its everyones choice and u shouldn't be made to feel guilty for not wanting to do it. Ignore them!!!! ;-) xx

Yeah I know what you mean about some mums who breastfed, dont get me wrong i know some women who breastfed and they say the same as me that it isnt fair to push it on someone, but i rememebr writing something for a "debate" of breastfeeding vs bottlefeeding, and i gave the pros and cons of both of them, and at the end said I had chosen to bottle feed my baby when they're born simply as it was easier for me and my husband as a family. I also have huge boobs (trust me Im not bragging I hate them haha!) and it wouldnt exactly be easy for me to "whip them out" to feed the baba, it'd take ma good 30 minutes just to get them out and comfy, and Id never be able to preserve my modesty haha! But the response I got from it was terrible I was completely ganged up on by a group of about 6 women who all breastfed and said I would make a terrible mother for not wanting the best for my child, which is entirely wrong, Id do anything for this baby, and seeing as I was bottlefed and all my family, friends etc were bottlefed and have never had any health issues, I dont see it as an inferior way to feed the baby, if it was proven to be dangerous to the baby, then yes Id think twice of course. That really upset me though when that happened and put me off breastfeeding even more.

If my in laws give me any grief they'll get a good smack hahaha, they hate me, always have done, so if they even tried to have a say in anything i did with my own baby when they havent been interested up to now, I'd probably just hit them and tell them they were to have nothing to do with the baby lol..!!!!!

Thanks for all the support :):)

Hey ...
ive had the same problem lately.. whenever i say im bottle feeding people think its such a big deal .... its only become so "normal" to breastfeed because of all the health professionals ramming it down everyones throats....

Okay it may be beneficial for baby but to what extent?! No one really knows to be honest do they ... every person is different, if your going to be poorly, you'l be poorly, doesnt matter if you were breast or bottle fed!

Me and all of my friends and family were bottle fed and were all really healthy, no problems what so ever so the comment people make of .. "its better for baby" is bull in my eyes ...
A friend of mine had a baby and decided to breastfeed ... 6months on and he still wont take a bottle or dummy .... she is completely worn out! I dont want that!

Altho my MW was very understanding when i said i was bottle feeding, she gave me a little information leaflet on the benefits and that was the last of it but for my last 2 appointments iv had different MW who looked at me in disgust when i said i was bottle feeding ... they can go whistle if they try telling me how i should bring up my baby!!!

Your baby your choice !!!
Sorry about the rant, it really grinds my gears this topic lol.
Take Care
Louise x

hahaha :P Glad it isnt just me then!!! :) Yeah I understand that they'll give you information about breastfeeding, thats fair enough, I dont mind that if I say "im going to breaskfeed" they pass me a leaftlet and say have you thought of breastfeeding, I say yeah and its not what i want etc, but then it seems thats never the end of it. Also its all over ALL baby books and ALL baby magazines never a mention of bottle feeding, and if it is mentioned its always a tiny comment about it!!! Annoying