Forum : Pregnancy

Theres no a lot you can do, at the moment, it's obviously his mum that put the doubts in his mind, however your are pregnant so he's going to have to deal with it, give him some time, he's proberly in shock anyway. Just talk about the baby to him casually and see if he comes round, good luck xxxx

don't worry about it it is youre body. if it helps when me and my partner first found out his reaction was he didnt want it, and yeh for the next two days we didnt see eye to eye much or spent hardly any tikme together but then when he thought about it properly he realised he did want and now he is just as excited and there for me as much as i need. so maybe u just need to give him time or just talk bout how u feel and your options and wat u want as it is your body! good look xxx

my partner was shocked.he didnt speak2me for an hour.then he asked me if i was keeping the baby.(knowing i find abortion disgusting).i told him yes,and if he didnt want to be with me if i kept the baby, i would leave the next day.he rang up the doctors and we saw the doc within an hour.then on the way home,he rang all his family.
I know he wanted to wait another2years or so,but weve been together4years anyway.Now he's realy excited.and altough he doesnt always express this or talk aboutt he baby all the time like me.he tells me he thinks about the baby at work ect,and cant wait to meet him/her.
If you bf,doesnt want2B with you anymore or gives you an ultimatum.then your better off without him.
he seems easily influenced by him mum.youll have to put your foot down on this.you dont want her sticking her nose it,at every stage of your baby.
hope things get sorted.
xxxx

hey thanks for all the help..wev sat down at spoken and its starting to be sorted now!!

his mum is coming round slowly...

xxx

hey beckie honey how old are you if u dont mind me asking? is his mum a bit funny about it cos of your age? at the end of the day as long as your happy its ok, im so anti abrotions andi told my other half ive been with for four years if i ever fall pregent i will never have an abortion, gd luck honey

19 hes 24! my age dont come into it she says she aint ready to be a gran!!

my mum wasnt too sure about becoming a gran, but 2 days later she told me it was mine and her baby, never mind my poor boyfriend. lol. my boyfriend wasnt overjoyed when i told him. in fact he was up for getting rid of it, but when i took him to my first scan his mind was most certainly changed for good. now im 31 weeks preg and he gives bump more attention than me! he kisses her and pats her affectionately telling her to "be good for mummy" when she gives me a good sharp kick in the ribs! hope all is well hun. xx

most men say its not real in tell they see the baby try and get him more involved ask him what he thinks about things it will take some stress away from you ,let him feel the baby kick he might feel it when u dont but play allong ,i was 18 when i was preg and my dad want happy atall but as soon as he saw hir his face lit up and he loves her to bits xxx

we got pregnant accidentally (i was 19 and he was 25, now we are 21 and 27) and he was TERRIFIED it didnt become really real to him until she was born and he was holding her! now hes fine and loves her to bits, although it was soooo hard at the start,we were shattered. but its ok now. and my mum loves her to bits and so does his mum, but really its none of their business unless you intend to live with them with the baby or something. Its nice to have them happy and involved but if people want to be a pig about it then its their loss, thats what happened with me and my dad (my daughters grandad on my side), he couldnt care less about us but we dont miss him!! good luck x x x

I'm Not sure if people are still reading this as it's been a few months since the last post. but i will put my query on here anyway as it kind of relates to the same thing...

i am 20 and my partner is 25 - I found out i was pregnant when i missed my period, i did two test and both came back positive, even though he had seen both test, he still didnt think i could be pregnant.

i made a doc's app who put me in touch with mid wife and he was still not having any of it. i am now 10weeks and had my first midwife app the other day, and he is believing it more now, and talking a bit more about it, he says he is happy about it however its just a big shock.

anyway i told my parents after the app as i was really excited, and we spoke about when he would tell his, but he still dosent want to tell them, and says he dosent know how they will react or how to bring it up.. how did you tell you parents? is it just one of those things where you just have to say it...?

when i told mine i just couldnt stop smilling and juat said i had somthing to tell them and they just guessed, they were a bit shocked at first but now they are looking forward to it just as much as me, but i just want my patner and his family to all be excited as well. any ideas..?