Forum : Pregnancy

I really feel for you...this is meant to be the most exciting time of your life but it seems he is putting a big dampener on it.He sounds like he is being a bit immature?maybe not facing up to it? I think maybe you need a big convo....or if you think ou might get upset or it would turn into an argument then maybe you could write it all down....then give it to him and pop out for an hour so he can really think about it.If you do write it down maybe try and word it so he doesnt think hes being "picked on",,,,men can be a bit sensitive about things like that ;p Have you got a supportive family? maybe they could have chat with him about "baby stuff" and see how he feels...it might just be that he's still coming to terms with it.I think for women it is slightly easier because we "have" the baby and all the emotions ect already inside us...but men are often on the outside without knowing how to get in? hope things get better soon...im sure it will work out ok x

hi hun, its not quite the same with me but i do feel alone sometimes, we planned for this baby and now he doesnt see interested, he hasnt asked any questions or anything, he says he 'knows it all' when this is his 1st too! i think its his way of getting his head round how quick i got pregnant, or maybe he doesnt want to get excited until scans etc, ahh men are confusing arnt they!! xx

hi there it sounds like he,s just scared ... i found im going to be a dad this morning and its all just a big blur im scared shitless yet im really excited all i can say is i hope he see,s sense and good luck x

Hi!!
I am a little bit in the same situation except my partner is openly saying he doesnt want me to keep the baby as its bad timing due to debt (with me not him.) We planned to have children in 2 years when I would be debt free but it has happened now. I know its not ideal and I had just planned to go back to studying so its a big shock for me too. I just cant help being excited now and he is still "deciding what he wants." I have also given the option of, "If you dont want the baby that much then I will have an abortion (which I wont because I dont think I can) but that II cant be with him after that and will need to move back to my mums 4 hours away. I want to be with him and we do love eachother but hes just not ready and I am now its happened. I hope things get easier for you and he starts getting excited too. Nothing worse than feeling like you've ruined their life, I have that feeling atm so bad :( Keep ur chin up and think of ur baby!! When he/she is born Im sure he will thank you xxxx

Its very hard when you are gonna be a dad this is my 4th and every time its differentt ,some guys get really scared and wonder if they are gonna be a good dad.iam not taking sides but just think that even though its you having the baby the man has to take thestrain mentally aswell my partner always digs at me and keeps saying i dont know how it feels and its her baby so ladys give us blokes a chance we know you get stressed but we are the biggest babies and need a hug too.