Forum : Pregnancy

I bought one of those listening things from argos they about £30, and my husband listens every night, and you can hear baby kicking etc. You should be able to find your baby heart beat by now but take time as it quite difficult first time, we also paid for a scan after my twenty week scan to find out sex and then had a 3D scan at 33 weeks, I take him to all my appointments and he only missed one as he couldnt get away for that one. I found this really helped because he gets to ask the questions he wants to and it reasures him too. He going to have skin to skin after the birth as well which he is looking forward to, he says it a bit easier to bond with baby, we have given him a name and we pick out all the things we buy him. Even if you cant manage every night then maybe once or twice a week to let him be with your bump, you start feeling baby kick soon, that might help as he be able to feel baby move as well soon.
Hope this helps.

a 4d scan will bond the baby and dad more it did with my partner

hi my fainace sed this when i was pregnant, it doesnt really sink in for dads untill the baby is here.

he was excited but found it hard to feel anything

it mite just be that he's worried and anxious about it all.

Dont worry about it, let him rub and talk to your bump, it all helps.

When baby is born i'm sure he'll feel differently, from the moment my fiancee saw our baby everything changed, he loves him to bits.

Good luck xxx

I'm really happy and excited, I feel like I already am bonded to the baby even though it won't pop out for another 2 months. I feel it wriggling in my wife's tummy and can't wait to see him/her.

my partner used to rub my tummy with moisturiser when i was pregnant and i was laid with my bump touching the small of his back in bed and he could feel her booting him thru my tummy lol. to make him feel closer to the bump i used to tell him that when he laughed near me she would really respond inside me,kicking and wiggling etc and he liked that even tho it wasnt strictly true that she did it every time lol ;-D but it made him feel more special

You could try talking to the baby when he's around and drawing him into the conversation. I know that sounds kind of weird but thats what my boyfriend and I started to do and now I catch him talking to my stomach when I'm asleep or doing the washing or something. If that doesn't work or feel right you could try having him come along with you when your buying all the baby things, especially clothes because they are more personalized to your tastes and thats what gives your child some of it's personality in the long run. Also once the baby starts really moving around I think he'll realise how 'real' the whole thing is and touching the bump will draw him to the bub.
You could also try asking him to massage some of the anti stretchmark oil stuff in because it's a practical thing to do and provides contact with the bump. I hope that helps a little.

hiya my hubby felt the same when i was pregnant,he used 2 rub my bump and all that but said it was weird because i had the baby in me and felt all the kicks and movement,i was abit upset about it 2 be honest with you,he was a star through my labour and watched our daughter be born and it was love at first site!when i went 4 a bath afterwards i came back in the room and my heart melted when i saw them having a cuddle he had dressed her in a babygrow as well!my baby is 15 weeks old now and he really helps me with her and i wish i hadnt upset myself about it when i was preggers.he will be fine when he holds his baby for the first time take care and good luck jo x

get him to talk to your bump baby will reckonise daddy`s voice and if your comfortable let him stroke and gently prod your bump after some time there will be a reaction from baby.

My hubby has become more excited as were getting close..only 9 weeks now!!!!
At 1st it didnt seem real 2 him even tho he was excited @ becoming a daddy now he rubs bio oil in2 my tummy everynight and my back,he talks to our son and even plays little games like when he kicks paul gives him a little poke and we watch him kick the same spot!!!! It's amazing!!!!! I have notced a definite change in paul as we get closer he's just soo excited
xx