Forum : Pregnancy

hi vicki
i have a 3 1/2 yr old daughter and i am 24+2 wks pregnant with our second baby (another girl), so our daughter will be almost 4 yrs by the time the baby comes. i fell first time with our daughter and i too was overwhelmed - even though she was planned i didnt expect it to happen so quickly and was taken aback by it! with this baby though, it took us 3 months so had a bit more time to get used to the fact that we were trying!
i think every parent worries how they'll cope with a 2nd baby but i also believe that all those worries disappear when your baby is born and fits into family life - you just get on with it. my daughter is so excited about having a baby sister, we are getting her involved in everything and making sure that she knows this is a good thing. i am sure once baby arrives there will be a bit of jealousy as Livi has had our undivided attention for many years, but i also believe it will do her good to have a sibling - she loves her cousins and actually does better around other children - she is less demanding when there are other children around. will your son be at pre-school before the baby comes? i just feel that it will be better if he could have settled there before your baby arrives so that he doesnt feel pushed out if he starts after baby's arrival. my daughter has been at nursery since she was just under 11 months old when i went back to work and she has been going to pre-school since april which she absolutely loves and i will increase her hours from january as she will no longer be going to nursery (baby due in november) so i will actually only have one child at home for a lot of the time.
one bit of advice i did read the other day is when you are unable to pick your son up, dont tell him it is because of the baby that you cant pick him up but make sure you have other ways to be close with him, otherwise he may end up resenting the baby. i dont have space on my knee anymore for my daughter, so she sits beside me now and she seems to understand why and has never seemed upset by it - she often sits with her hand on my tummy!
as i say though, you will be fine, you will find a way and all will be well - it's just a bit overwhelming for now because you have only just found out, give it time and it will be fine! x

thanks for that it's really good to know other people worry too and i guess I ahve got almost 9 months to get my head round it now lol! yeah hoping for Liam to start pre school in sept 1 morning a week and then hopefuuly 4 sessions from jan when he will get his funding, thanks for the tip on not being able to pick him up will use that, just another though how far along were you b4 you told your little girl? i read somewhere to wait until you have a visible bump so they can make a bit more sense of it what did u do? xx

we told our daughter once we had had our scan, but my bump appeared at 8 weeks so it was hard to hide it from anybody! was in maternity clothes with her at 10 weeks and at 8 weeks with this one! i am now huge and people cant believe i still have 16 weeks left!
it is of course up to you - do what you think your son will find easier to understand -waiting until your bump grows is a good idea as it gives him something to understand, plus a few months can seem like a lifetime to them so the earlier you tell sometimes the harder it is for them to understand that it wont happen overnight! my daughter says everyday that she wants her baby sister!

I have a 3yr old boy and i am 8 weeks pregnant with my 2nd. I feel guilty all the time because when i am not asleep i am fighting morning sickness.
My boy knows there is another baby on the way and i think he is handling it better than me... I have even had a couple of panic attacks. That said i am happy and cant wait for the new addition. I know exactly how you feel... Congratulations and good luck xxx

Meant to say the bt one we got was for use downstairs as my son sleeps in the living room during the day, so we now use the tomy one downstairs, the angelcare one is in his room xx

Ah just ignore that my computer went really funny then and posted reply on wrong thread!! No idea how lol!