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Has anyone else got pushy parents well parent to be exact? Im 21 expecting my first due on august the 7th and im sick of my mother! im not a single parent and i live in bham area with my partner but my mom is trying to take over! she has told me from a month old she is expecting me to let my son stop with her once a week- im not sure this is what im going to want to happen and have told her that only to get back '' your so selfish not allowing your son to have a good relationship with his nan'' etc.
Plus i said at the beginning i want both her and my partner at the birth and she has now decided my little sister can come too - even thou im only allowed 2 birthing partners - they have decided that my partner/mum can switch with my sister every now and then. i dont really get on with my sister that well and dont want to share the experience with her!! argh.. my partners going to be angry when he finds out whats going on.. hes 35 and obviously will want to be there the whole time..
any advice would be so much apreciated as im stressed and upset!!!!!
plus if there is anyone from the birmingham area who fancys a chat i could so do with one !! would be nice to meet other mums as i have no friends who have babies!!!
Holly xx
hi Hollie and do you have a red Stilo
Hi holly, so sorry to hear about yr mom being like this with you! My name is Amy and I'm 37weeks with my first. With everything she saying about having baby once week, let that go over your head because like you said you got no way of knowing until baby is here whether that would work out and if all you get back is her calling you selfish I would just try just switch your ears off to it!
Now with your birth partners YOU have to decide and you can do this with your midwife I would make sure that your partners name is first on list on your notes and then just your mum. No point at all putting your sister down if you dont get on as that could cause you stress or arguments and if you not close she shouldnt mind that she not there anyway. And at the end of the day its YOUR birth and Your choice, you could even not have your mum there if things get worse with her.
Try not to let it get to you and talk to your partner about how she making you feel but dont let it get you down this should be really exciting time for you. Hope that is some help sorry I cant fix it for you! xx
my mum is pushy and the ladys on here give good advice as for birth parthers put your foot down i did x
i think you should make it clear to your misdwife and maybe if you have a birth plan put it in there that you only want your mum and partner at the birth. not your sister! the midwifes will go with what you want x
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Posted on 06/01/2012 19:38:55