Forum : Mums

hi im 19 and my husband is 28 and i'm 33 weeks pregnant at the moment. we we'rent planning to have any kids till i had finished uni and got mself the job i wanted lol but then we found out in january i was pregnant which was a massive shock!! i was exactly like you about how my family would react as my mum had always told me to wait till i was financially secure and settled before thinkin about kids. when i told her she was in shock but then after me and my hubbie had told her that we were going to get married her mind eased as she knew then that my hubbie was serious and wasnt going to leave me!!! and fter telling her this has made me more determined to go to university i have her full support shes bought everything for the baby already telling me i shouldnt have to worry about that and now that the time is coming nearer shes so excited!! i have asked her to be my birthing partner and she feels like she has a special part to play now lol but i wouldnt have it any other way! we are struggling for money as i dont no what im entitled to as im not working and my husband works over 30 hours a week but we still dont get much after tax and ni. but we no we can cope as we have the help of both our families!! like my mum says you can be any age and becoming pregnant never fits into your lifestyle no matter what u do!! hope this has helped xx

thank you so much, thats really good to hear. I recon it will go better than what I think, you just work yourself up dont you and then it never seems as bad. Also I have a 'feeling' that my partner is going to be proposing soon as we are going on holiday and he has even asked my ring size and what style i like heehee! Hopefully this will ease them a little bit. I just want a baby so bad - I would start now but we need to find accomodation first!

Don't rush into things! I'm 21 and fell pregnant at 20 my baby was born 11th Feb and my 21st birthday was on the 24th of feb, so I had a new born baby to get up with so didn't have a great birthday! my partner is 33 and we have been together nearly 4 years and I have just found out im pregnant again! this baby will be born just after my 22nd birthday and just after my eldest baby's 1st birthday, so im gunna have my hands full! i wouldn't change my eldest for the world she's gorgeous and a really good baby but I do feel jealous of my friends who go out alot and I'm stuck at home with a baby and pregnant! Just think carefully you've got a good while to have kids, have some fun first before u get stuck with dirty nappies and covered in milk and never having the time to do ur hair! lol

i got accidentally pregnant at 19, me and my (quite long-term) partner were both living with our parents still, he had a job which he lost and i had a part time job. before our daughter came along we managed to save up, move into rented accomodation, and he has a full time job. im off work looking after our baby and im looking for part time work now so she can go to a nursery while im working, i think our situation has turned out relatively well considering what a panic i was in when i got preg! So it can be done!
Just realise that having a baby is soooooo stressful, in every way, any faults in yr relationship will be blown wide open as soon as you both suddenly have all this vital responsibility and no sleep or privacy etc etc..so make sure u are a strong couple or able to cope alone if it should ever have to come to that (god forbid! im sure it wouldnt anyway). You can do it, its just harder than its possible to realise until the baby actually comes along. Lots of luck hun x x x x

oh and i was sh**ng myself about telling ym mum i was pregnant, i was really scared and thought she wuld hate me, but she just said "well u cant get rid of it" and then was happy as larry about it!! hehehe! and now she loves my daughter more then she bloody loves me im sure of it hah! x x

Hello im 19 and my partner is 26 also we have the most gorgeous son ever!! would not change him for the world.i was a bit like you too wanted a baby but had alot of worrys but it all works out in the end and you realise what you were worrying about. His family were the worst to take it, they were not happy as the thought we rushed into it! but when Owen came along they knew i was right that i was ready. if you feel you are ready then go for it dont let anyone stop you!!

I am 19 and my Fiance is 29m, we was not trying for a baby but if it happened it happened. Now i am 16 weeks pregnant and Its the best thing i have ever done. We are both happy!!!! Just follow your heart and do what u think is right!

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hi I had my doughter at 18 and really struggled no money and was living at home with my mum but thanks to my mum and sister I have got through it and now would'nt have my life any over way. my mum went mad but was fine and now loves her granddoughter to bits but wait live your life first go clubbing I am now after a year just moving out on my own

hya im 19 my boyfriend of 3yrsb is 20. i am 20wks pregnant, was planned. do what you have to do to be happy only you as a couple knw wen u r ready t b parents. i had money worries 2 nd i wrk full time, bt i found out after i have had the baby if i go bk jus 16hrs i cn gt working tax credits to make up ur fulltime wage. we have jus applied for housing assosiation accomodation, lukin at getin a 2bed flat 4 just 280 a month, much better than council. if it feels right dnt be worried about ur family. but i will say tht pregnancy is nt all its cracked up to be, all i do is work, sleep and throw up, i am always moody and it does put a strain on ur relationship... good look x

hi there i was 17 when i was pregnant with my first son i live dat home with my mum then me and my partner got ourselves a house n then we had another son ,i now have 2 beautiful boys the oldest 3 and youngest 9 months i wouldnt change being a mum for the world ,i think about my friends who still go out partying and i just think what a waste of time im not jelous one bit i love being a mum and all the little things that come with it lol we are thinking of trying again next year we hope for a girl but we are not bothered either way we are set to marry next year having children has changed my life i say to you if you are in a stable and loving relationship and you both are financially stable why not go for it if thats what you both want .good luck n all the best on becoming a mum .