Forum : Mums

hi hun havent any advice to offer but think its great your partner wants to look after
little one and why not! if you are both happy with this then why shouldnt it work.
hun you 2 have to do whats best for you . and if he is happy to do it i think its great. i think you should go for it . youve obviously talked about it properly we are in the year 2008 anda lot of dads are more hands on good for you !

Hi there. I'm kind of in the same situation - I wanted to go back to work part-time but my work wouldn't allow it and as I can't really afford full time nursery care my partner asked his work if he could go part-time and they agreed! I am going back to work full time in August and he will now watch our daughter two days a week, she will be in nursery one day and my mum can look after her the other two days. Like you it is also financially better for us if I am the one working full time. I will miss her loads but we have both got to think about the pennies and if its financially better for us to be working mums then why not?? xx

HI hun, theres nothing wrong with going back to work while your partner stays home with yourbaby!, i think providing it's something your both up for that it's a lovely idea, your mum comes from a generation, that didn't do that sort of thing,so she disagress with it, but so what, if your finacilaly better of isin' that what counts??? Good luck hun, hopefully your mum'll come round once you go back to work xxx

Hi,
I am so glad someone else has brought this up,,,I am due back at work soon but not sure if I can go back quite yet ( I have PND ) but me and my hubby have discussed this as I earn more than him and he is up for the idea of looking after our LO. The problem is that I don't know if I can leave our baby yet, I totally trust his Daddy to look after him but its me, just being too clingy, although we would be better off financially if it was me being at work full time.
Jo
x

I am going back to work three days a week in September as I am a primary school
teacher. My partner is going to look after our little boy (six months old now). We had a little practice day yesterday and it went really well. I feel so much better knowing it will be his dad looking after him and not a stranger ( as we have no close relatives to help).
Is there any way you can have a couple of trial days?
Abbduvet x

hi
how could i find out if we would be better off in this situation? i go back 2 work in 2 weeks & dreading the thought of it. my partner has suggested he give up work but i dont no how 2 find out how this would work financially

Hi,

I noticed you posted this a while back but I've only just seen it sorry! I work full time and my husband is a stay at home dad. He does work part time too 6.30-8.30 am Mon-Fri and Monday afternons when our son goes to nursery but apart from that he looks after our son full time.

My little one is almost 8 months and I started work when he was 3.5 months. Like you we are financially better off this way. My little one has had no problem adjusting to it, I even managed to continue breastfeeding until he was 6 months old.

I would say if it works for you then go for it. In my opinion if it is possible then it is better for a baby to be cared for my one of the parents even if it is that dad. We had a couple of people who thought it wasn't right but at the end of the day its none of their business, there are plenty of stay at home dads nowadays.

The only thing I will say is it can be a little bit hard to take a back seat and allow your husband to do his own routine/decisions!! I did feel a bit guilty in the early days but my son seems very happy so I'm happy!

Hi there,

I am so glad that someone has brought up this topic........I am in the same situation but in my case however, I would have to leave our child with their dad whilst they are new born..... I cannot afford to take maternity leave at all because what my other half earns is far less than what I do and even if I combined the SMP and his current income, it will cover only the very basics before even thinking about food and things for our little one. We have always lived an extremely simple life, still five channels, pay as you go phones, key meter electricity, no washing mashine, no socialising outside, no internet, we have not bought clothes in ten years other than the od pair of shoes and socks and worn out underwear........the children however never went hungry and their clothing were always clean and immaculate, they were happy children and we learnt to improvise from the very onset, yet still we struggled. We do not drink or smoke either and we cook all of our own food........coming from an African background, this is highly frowned upon and has even led to insults towards my other half for being unable to provide for his family etc.............I am totally distressed by the whole thing because he is more than capable of looking after newborns, (although he cannot breastfeed), we have three already.................but the family are not having it but neither are they stepping forward to offer a helping hand......................I would love to bring up our little one myself but in London it is near impossible unless your husband is earning _30,000 + a year.............