Forum : Mums

hi emma firstly you are in NO way neglecting your dd by feeding your son! i am a mum to 5 year old amy 2 year old holli and 32 week bump amy is autistic and has little understanding for things like sharing her mummy! i breastfed holli and sat amy beside me and read her a book while feeding holli or i gave her her special colouring book (that only came out at feeding time) and i would ask her to colour in a picture for me this made her feel included in the whole routine and she also got my attention maybe your dd could have some special toys that only come out at feeding time? or a book that you read to her? (just remember when feeding time is over they go away again) those sorts of things could make your daughter feel included in what your doing you are also interacting with her aswell as feeding your son and she wont feel left out . i plan to do the same with the girls when no.3 makes his/her appearance. ALSO you are not superwoman and there is no need to feel guilty it sounds like you have alot on your plate and are doing an AMAZING JOB =) hope i helped even a little xxxxxxxx

i have a daughter who is nearly 4 yrs and a 3 week old. i am bottlefeeding my newborn but she is becoming increasingly reliant on mummy cuddles between feeds so finding time for my oldest is getting harder and harder. all i can say is do what you can. it is hard when you have more than one child and as above says, dont feel guilty.
i am sure you are doing a great job.x