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have you tried a different church that maybe relies on donations._were getting our son christened on 17.8._the vicar just asked if at least one of us is christened .its a massive beautiful church,that doesnt charge for christenings._maybe you could explain that you cant really attend church because you have a baby._dont give up,im sure theres a church near you that isnt as pushy.

Hiya! we looked into a christening too for our little boy and wanted to get him christened at the church where we got married, we have both been christened and feel it would be nice to do the same for our little man. We were told we had to go on a 10 week course and we may be considered after that. Then if we did get approved we had to stand up in church and make a promise that we would take him to sunday school every week as soon as he had been christened. We felt this was too much of a comittment and weren't prepared to make a statement that we couldn't fully honour. Im not saying that we wouldn't take him to church at all after the christening,but its just the way we were told thats what had to happen! and that it MUST be every week, we 2 were hoping to have a more welcoming and not so 'full on' kind of introduction! So for now we are thinking about it. The welcome to the family party sounds great, were going to one this weekend and i think it sounds a great idea xxx

P.S loubird your message was lovely and a gud idea 2 hun, i think we might have to have another look around. The church where your going sounds lovely, hope you have a lovely day xxxx

Thanks ladies!
To be honest we've given up on the christening idea now, as nu_mummy say's it's not right to make promise you can not keep.............
loubird, Hope you have a lovely day......you've been very lucky!!!
S x

Hi ya

My partner and I are having this argument. We were both Christened, and my partner wants to have the baby Chrsitened when it is born (Only 25 weeks at the mo, so long time to go yet), however I am not agreed with the idea.

My main issues are that I was bought up a Catholic, was forced to go to church every sunday until I was old enough to tell my Dad I just wasn't prepared to go anymore, and went to a Catholic school (with its own chapel and everything) and I still ended up being non religious, so I think what is the point?

But my partner - who is an Atheist by the way, wants to have a Christening because he thinks that is just what you so and also so that our child can have our best friends as God parents, which I don't think is a good enough reason. I am really unconvinced but he is unwilling to budge.

The funny thing is that I do believe in God, but I do not agree with the way that Religion tries to dictate how you should live your life or more to the point if the way that you have lived your life is good enough to get your ticket to heaven. I think that some of the ideals are too unreasonable in modern day society (but I won't go into a religious debate). Also, I spent my whole bloody chilhood going to church and hated every second of it and am not willing to go through more church just to Christen a child who will also hate going to church - am I being unreasonable?

If I am, please feel free to tell me.

Kelly x

i want my kids christening. i am not christened but my patner is.... so my 2nd child which is his will be ok being christened, but my 1st son is not his and is also is half cast. but due to me not being christened im worried he wont be able to get done....... i really want them both doing HELP!!!!

Both my boys have been christened/baptised and I've plans to have my daughter done too, but I see the church as 'extended family' not somebody you visit every week but there when you need them! Might be hypocritical but I was expected to go every week as a kid and it puts you off. Some vicars are stricter than others about christening rules but divorcees can marry in church now, unheard of 20 years ago, so I think they should relax the christening rule too. Local register office will perform a naming ceremony though.

i dont agree with christening babies as its putting them into a religion that maybe they dont want to be part of however if thats something for you then i completely respect that. we have a lovely church near us that offers christenings naming ceremonies and blessing ceremonies aswell which i would have thought was the same as a naming ceremony but hey.

he has a beautiful church and charges an honest fee more as a security payment on the appointment than anything else.

Every church is different isuppose and it depends on your personal experience aswell