Forum : Mums

if hes not interested ,sod him u've tried your best!and im sure u and ur baby will be fine on your own.

I'm so sorry he feels that way corse he's gonna miss out on a lot!!, but you've done everything you can, now it's time to concentrate on you and the baby, i'm not saying it's easy going it alone, but you can do it!, all the baby needs is some milk and it's mothers love, which i'd say he's got in abundance!!! Don't mean to be horrible but it's better you know now then for him to walk out after the babies born. Take care hun, were always here if you want a chat, i;m also on the friends forum aswell xxx

Hi welcome to the club, my lo is 10 month now and his dad not interested, even when i told him baby was ill he didnt bother to ask how he was etc, there is nothing there on his side i dont even think he told his family about the baby, and yes of course if very frustrating but you will be fine on your own. All i can say is enjoy rest of your pregnancy and becoming a mummy. Its his loss dont give him a second thought he dont deserve it. Good luck x

hope this boat doesnt capsize with my weight lol as Im in it too. My babys dad left when I refused to abort my baby at 7 weeks preg. I havent seen him since jan and baby is due in 2 weeks time. He says he will pay for "it" (im having a girl!!! ) but doesnt ever wnt to see her as he DOESNT WANT KIDS. Keep smiling and it wont ever be you that hs regrets...... only him when hes old and lonely xx

im bringing up 4 on my own and they are the best in the world, yes hardwork but amazing
just think you get all them special times for yourself. i would love to share them of course with my baby/childrens dad but he aint interested you will be fine just like all of us doing our best
hugs xxxx

I had a baby 11 wks ago....... I was in the same situation as you. He didn't want me to keep the baby as he said he wasn't ready to become a dad. I decided to keep the baby and raise it on my own. He didn't contact me again.... I understood that he wasn't ready but still went ahead with the pregnancy as i made my mind up and felt ready. I now have a beautiful baby girl, i sent him an email to let him know she had been born and left it open for him to contact me, that was 8 weeks ago and i still haven't heard anything.(doubt i ever will) The way i see it is that he is missing out, my baby has plenty of people who will love her and be there for her and i'm sure i can love her enough for me and him. In my head i thank him for giving me a perfect daughter. It's just a shame for him that he hasn't met her. Don't worry if he has decided not to get involved you will soon be a mummy and overwhelmed by the love you feel for your little one! Good luck sweetie! x

It makes you realise how awful some people can be. There's no two ways about it - men are selfish. My ex wanted to be part of the baby's life and play an active role and kept coming and going whenever he felt like it - now he has met someone else and I have 2 weeks to go before baby is born. It was worse having him around I wish he'd just disappeared and left me alone because he caused me a lot of heartache by still being around. You will be absolutely fine.

my partner of two years has walked out on me as I'm 11 weeks pregnant! He already has two children from a previous relationship and will maintain his regular contact with them and not me - makes me feel like a second class citizen!! My mum also said its best you find out now rather than after the baby comes. I too plan to do it alone and what the baby doesn't have (a father) it will never miss as there are plenty of family and friends who will love it just as much as I do. Men are not very nice at all!!

hi there, i have just found out that i am 5 weeks pregnant after seeing a guy for only 3 months, i told him and he was shocked and he has said that he is too young to help raise a baby as he can't even look after himself yet (he's 24) anyway i have decided to keep the baby and have told him this. he has shocked me today saying although he doesn't think he is ready he will stand by me and not let me face this alone. Whether he will change his mind on me i don't know, but reading all your comments it has inspired me to take each day as it comes. If it works out with him than great if not i will do this on my own, I have a very loving family and great friends who i know will be there for me. Men are useless anyway, were much better on our own!!!!! Joanne x

Hi hun, I'm one of the lucky ones. Every now and then send him updates (not allthe time) And when little one is born, let him know. That way then her can't accuse you of keeping you out of bubs life if he decides to take an interest. Also find out about the birth certificate from the cab office. If you need to decide if you are going to put him on the certiicate, and also what your rights are. Good luck. My dad bought me and my bro up when my mum walked out. (its not always the blokes you see) and he did a brill job. If a man can do it, so can you.