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Second child due tomorrow and sooo fed up

Im 23 and expecting a girl, my pregnancy with my son (aged 4) was so easy for me but this one had me moaning throughout with morning sickness, having a cold through most of it and spd symptoms that have come and gone since 4 months. On top of all that the kids dad decided he wants no more children and has walked away from both of the but not before threatening to have her beaten out of me in front of our son, my son started wetting the bed and wouldn't leave my side for 2 weeks after. Since then my son has changed, he's been acting up to the point that i'll sit in tears cause i know he's changed so much and i wonder how i'll cope on the days were he's acting up as well as having a screaming newborn. He's usuallt such a good boy & still is most of the but then he just kicks off. We've always had such a great relationship and been so close but right now were quite distant and i hate it. His dad wasn't always around, he was in prison from when i was 7 months pregnant with him till he was 3 and i took him back 10 months ago i got pregnant straight away then he left. I always coped very well on my own but letting him back into our life has turned everything upside down and i feel guilty! :(

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Posted on 01/01/2012 15:15:38

sweetiemummy

wow!!
it sounds like the father has alot to answer for! but then at the same time it sounds like ur better off without him. sad as it is, because i think children benefit from both parents, if one parent isnt willing to be involved they r better off with one good parent.
i dont have many suggestions for ur son acting up perhaps he feels like he might b abit left out? iv just had my second daughter my first was never jealous as such just abit teritorial try some extra reassurance and having onc=e set thing a week that u always do with him. for example my oh takes my oldest to the cafe every sunday morning obv itl b alot harder for u opn urown but it hink u will surprise urself with how well ul cope.
i suffered with terrible spd with both pregnancies and was induced at 38 weeks with my second coz i cudnt walk so i totally sympathise with u on that its so hard esp with a toddler and i felt terribly guilty always having to mae her bri gher toys in the front room so i cud sit on the osfa to play or not being able to push her on the swing but it is only for a while and it wont scar them for life lol

dont feel guilty for giving him a second chance he is the father of ur children after all but he just proved he isnt worth it all u can do now is work on ur relationship with ur son and building ur life up again without him u dont need him u obv did a very good job before he walsed back in to ur lives.

why r some men such losers??

good luck i hope ur bubba comes soon and i hope she is really well behaved for u x

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Posted on 01/01/2012 17:24:01