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I am currently in a turbulent relationship at the moment. We keep rowing as my boyfriend doesn't want to give up drink and drugs but we have twins on the way. I am three months gone and he thinks that I got pregnant on purpose. He wanted me to have an abortion I went to the clinic and I couldn't bring myself to do it. I said to him that I'd rather have the babies than him. After this row he changed his tune and said he would be there for us. I am very annoyed now as he hasn't proved anything to me. He still has his druggy friends around and drink excessive amounts. He has been out of work since January and isn't really bothering to look for work. I am now in debt for paying all the bills and I don't have any money to spare to move out. I am stuck in a rut as to whether he is going to change.

the father 2 my 2yr old son was and still is a druggy he wudnt give it up for his son. JASON MATTHEWS FROM NEWENT GLOUCESTERSHIRE (my sons father) hit my son when my son when he was 3weeks old because he was crying, so i left him. jason has now got another child with a different woman (WELL GIRL) i warned her what he was like and she didint believe me now she is going down the same road as me.\ jason refuses to pay maintenance and doesnt even want to see his son

my 13 yr old daughters dad ERIC YEBOAH from manchester hasnt seen or paid for her in 13 years, when csa got hold of him he denied bieng her dad and then when they asked for a dna he dissapeared again. my 2nd daughters dad DARREN FLETCHER of preston lancs has 14 children and has now faced charges of sexually abusing 4 of those. he to hasnt paid csa or bothered with his child [not that id let him now anyway!!!] my 3rd daughters dad COLIN DUFF is fab. he sees her every weekend and is there for her whatever. my little boys dad PATRICK TURNER of preston lancs would only see my son when we split up if i gave him money for drugs and drink, im ashamed to admit that i did that for a while as i was still in love and thought we could reconsile but when i stopped giving in to his demands he stopped seeing the baby. he took me to court for access twice and both timres failed to turn up so now i have full custody. he is now living in leyland bringing up someone elses kids. god help them.

My little girl is 5 months and her dad STEVE BYRNE in North London is her dad. He denies her being his. Fair enough it was a one night thing and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with him, but he is telling everyone I must have slept around because he used contraception. Which may I add is completely untrue as before him the last person I slept with was almost 3 years ago.
CSA cant find him, and I can't ask my mate because she feels in the middle enough and I wont lose my mate over a muppet like him.

yep ive got to agree with you on that. my daugther is 1 month old and her dad called graham needham doncaster he never comes to vist or gives me money for her up keep. hes allready got kids that are now grown up witch he has note to do with them, so he told me. so when she get older guss who'll have the exsplaining to do? me! so if anyone knows him shame him.

Is it too harsh to say ALL MEN ARE TW*TS

Evenln' ladies.
I'd like to stick up for the men here. I'm proud to be a totally committed and loving dad to my first child at the age of 42. I know there are a lot of dads out there who aren't entitled to be 'dads' but I have to say there's many a woman who gets pregnant with a complete waste of space, and judging from a post above, 4 seperate fathers who have all proved to be useless. We aren't all at fault here and 'ALL MEN ARE TW*TS' can be said of some girls who have unprotected sex and then expect 100% commitment from a guy whose input so far was to buy the 4 Bacardi Breezers to get in this position. A child is a privilege, a responsibility and a blessing. Not an accessory or a means to a number of benefits. I apologise for being harsh but I get a bit sick of the guys getting a thrashing when there are a lot of girls who let this happen and then wonder why they are stuck with a child and no support. Use a condom until you are ready to have kids or in a stable relationship...and 'stable' doesn't mean sharing a kebab and a taxi home.

Ranger dad I completely agree with you about those girls who have unprotected one night stands (it takes two to tango though!) or 'use' men to have a baby. However in my situation, I had been with my ex partner for 3 years before I fell pregnant. We were engaged to be married. I'm well educated and a health professional, not a drop out who has been living on jobseekers allowance since the age of 16! Unfortunately my ex partner went off the rails due to drink and drugs, and anybody who knows will tell you what a devastating affect this can have on the family. These are the men I'm talking about (and I'm sure there are women who do it too!). Those who at first made a commitment and then when the real deal arrives they run a mile!

Hi Candice
I'm perhaps as guilty of making a broad statement as a couple of the posters about men. I feel for women who are in healthy(ish) relationships and then after a baby is born the men run a mile. My partner has 2 boys, her ex-husband walked out on her and the boys after 9 years of marriage and the boys were 6 & 8. He left for another woman who already had a son. He only sees them when he has to. I love being with them. We've been together 3 years and just had a beautiful daughter. I can't imagine walking out on a baby that I helped create. Like they say 'any bloke can be a dad, it takes a man to be a father'. Hopefully you'll meet a better man and have a better life. I just smiled when i saw a post where someone has had four kids with four different dads and they've all been useless and it's the men who are at fault. Granted, Ulrika Johnson has 4 kids with 4 different dads but it's still hardly rocket science.
To all the women who had useless men run out on them...it's their loss and something they'll never get back.
Goodnight all :o)

hey there guys and gals and bumps and children! i must admit i see this conversation from both sides but i would like to say Ranger dad has made a lot a fare points some woman out there r to blind to see what kind of men they r with and think everything will be a bed of roses and when it really isnt going to change then get mad! but like ranger dad said i can really understand why some woman get upset when then men go all like that after the baby was born and they were in a stable relasionship! i must say i must have a good man yeh he did like his smoking and drinkin now stopped drinking for me and the baby and pretty much changed r relesionship there r decent men and we shouldnt class all of them under the same label because of the stupid men who do not realise what they have brought into the world! but also i must say congrats to all those mums out there who r strong and have coped with the actual horrible men!! love hayles and bump xxx