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My children's father has been incredibly unreliable since meeting his new girlfriend. At the moment we are in week 10 of absolutely no contact between him and the children, but i know that soon he will phone and want to see them on a day and time that suits him. Also last time he spoke with them he told them he will take them to his girlfriends farm but he has never been able to cope with both of them at the same time on his own and i think its just to dangerous around the animals and machinery as our son is really mischievous!
All i'm wondering is can i put certain terms on his access?
i was thinking: Regular days, times, same every week. Having his mother present. Not taking them out of his mothers house. Definately not taking them in a car. If he messes up or lets them down once stop ALL access.
Can i get a solicitor to put this in writing or do i need to go to court?
Just an extra point, i left him because he was violent towards me, not towards the kids but he broke my nose whilst i was nursing our son.
Do you think these are reasonable rules??
Any opinions/advice greatly appreciated even if you dont agree with me! Xx
hey hun,i agree wd u 100 percent,he cant just pick n choose wen he sees his kidz,1st ov all how long has he been wd his new g.f?how old r ur kids?r they old enuf 2 say wat they want n if he cant cope by himself maybe u shld let him see them in a contact center,go c a solicitor n get advice xxx
Hi, some solicitors do the first hour free so you could go armed with a list of questions and find out where you stand with regard to contact. I agree with lady attitude that if there has been a history of violence even if it wasn't aimed at your child that a contact centre with supervised access might be the best way to go :-))xx
that makes sense, he needs to do the same time every week coz that would be best for the kids, if he picked and chose it would upset the kids as they would think he doesnt care, i know you can go through courts about stuff like that and there are supervision centres where they can go but i dont know the details, iv been thinkin bout doin sumat like that with my ex, he was never violent but hes a pain and smokes dope when hes got the baby but im not decided as what to do yet iv just given him the option to prove to me that he can be a good dad before i go anyfurther
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Posted on 19/10/2011 20:38:56