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Alone

hey,

just really needed to get this off my chest.
im 18 and single mum to my 7 month old son, i split up ith my bf of 2 years and father to my child 1 month ago, due to his i have been put in a refuge, but after everything with my mum and dad leaving me i feel a total let down, may sound silly but i cant work out what ave dun wrong. i feel like im going round in circles i really thought that things would get better, but since the birth of our son its got worse.
now im on anti-depressiants in a refuge i dnt no how much more i can take, im miles away from my friends and havent got no family. i feel a let dwn to my son as i wanted to give him more than i had as a child. the most upsetting thing is is that my sons dad doesnt want to know and if he does its only out spite to get back at me for taking him to court over our flat.
i just dnt n which way to turn and the more unhappy i am the more unhappy i get the more unhappy my son gets.

rosie xx

 

Posted on 10/07/2008 14:33:44

aaww bless ya i had my son wen i was 18, im here if u wanna chat, im kinda lonely 2 lol xxxx

Posted on 10/07/2008 18:35:26

Hey come on you have got the most precious thing in the whole wide world, and that is a baby. Has you doctor or health visitor suggested counselling? It wont always be like this, have you been to the local council and put your name down on the housing register? There is help out there, gingerbread is an organisation for single parents also depending where you live there is homestart. No matter how bad things get you are not alone. You have NOT let your son down, you done what was best for you both and ok its not easy but over time it will get easier you just need to hang in there honey. Forget the dad its his loss you concentrate on you and your son and making a better life for you both. Im 35 and my lo is 10 month nearly the dad walked out when he found out i was pregnant never heard from him since only to deny he was lo dad, ive been on anti d as well so i do understand how you feel. I promise in time you will find your feet an you will be housed but you have to fight otherwise the councils do nothing, you really need to keep on at them. Keep your chin up honey im here if you want to chat ok take care xxxx

Posted on 10/07/2008 19:12:43

heya chick please dont feel alone i know excatly how u feel!! im battling with the ups n downs of live!! if u ever need a cry a friend or a chat please get in touch!! dont go though this alone like i did!! my worst mistake was tryin to do it alone!! kirstybush@msn.com

Posted on 17/07/2008 19:33:22

aww hun i feel for you. im 30 weeks pregnant now with my second, me and my BF at the time planned this baby and all he done was go out drinking all week, i couldnt take no more i felt so alone and depressed, i eventually packed up and moved back to my home town 250 miles away. not got my own place yet but one things for sure....im better off on my own and getting on with my life awaiting the arrival of my second child. keep your chin up hun it will all be ok

Posted on 02/08/2008 23:00:05

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