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hay jodie
what a bloke!!
i think you aught to go to your doctor and if its pnd then he can treat it that would stop the crying and be better for your kids.

as for that useless lump maybe a shock factor?? have ou actually said you where going to leave? maybe it would buck his ideas up but if you already have then maybe its time to prove it sounds like you have given him endless chances any way and bringing up two children on your own pretty much is amazing!! just proves you might actually be better off with out him.

just remember your one heck of a mum with your dad's news to copw with too i think your amazing myself stronger then you realise but go to the doctor first get checked for depression then go from there.

good luck and all the best
amy xxxxx

I think maybe u need to give him a bit of his own medicine! tell him where the door is if he is not prepared to step up and be a good dad and partner. Ihave had a few arguments with my partner about sharing responsibilities! Men seem to think certain things ie. the house, cleaning, the kids etc are the womens responsibilities and this really annoys me!! You tell him either wise up and be there 4 u and ur children and if he doesnt then he isnt worth ur time. You have to talk to him, tell him ur worries and concerns. Does he know u feel like u have depresion or r u tryin to b strong around him!!?? And for the sake of your kids, go to ur doctor, they will help u if ur partner wont! Good luck x

hi hun congrats dont worry its just your body getin ready 4 the baby in a way i got it 2, im 16 weeks 17 on mon. gd luck xxxxxxx

im a new dad t my 3 month old lil boy, since my gir friend has had him she is not the same person , shes realy snappy n moody, she was never like this before, and when we get chance t become intermate she dont wana b tuched, what can i do?? PLEASE HELP

to daddy- hi i can kinda help lol, after having the baby your hormones are all over the place, im sure ur tierd too. but carrying a baby for 9 mnths n then to be there for a baby 24/7 that takes its toll. my fella was the same with me, although i let him get intimate i didnt let it happen so regulary, it can be scary thinking iv just pushed a baby out n now he wants to push back in me will it hurt or be the same etcetc. but the best thing u can do is to not keep coming on to her or suggesting sex, be more yuorself with her make her feel like a princess again, my partner went the wrong way bout by pushing n pushing for more n more n it caused arguments. i wud be ready in my own time. i hope thats helped a bit. x x

hey daddy a little advice as above tasha is right theres tiredness etc women can be extremely worried about pain after childbirth sex is scary its a little like it bein our first time again we are petrified it will hurt because of what weve been through your gf just needs time try not to make it obvious your dissapointed about the lack of intimacy instead try arranging a night of candles cuddles and kisses a dvd maybe or back rub do something romantic dinner maybe dont try for sex tho you need to reassure her theres no pressure and you can be intimate in other ways kisses cuddles etc when she relaxes and isnt stressed because she fells pestered for sex shel be more likely to feel comfortable enough remember it takes a little time and effort ie candles cudles as mentioned also reassurance shel come round in her own time remember shes just recently been through something traumatic and she needs your patience i hope this helps xx

Hi little_ miss, have you been to the docs yet?

This is a sad and selfish business, my advice is don't sign up to a life time of this treatment. You'll end up feeling totally down trodden by carrying him as well as your children. There are lots of men who will quite happily do nothing for as long as you will allow it. Lifes too short! after all we wouldn't put up with such behaviour from a friend or family member.

best wishes, hope you feel better soon.
LK,xx

hey my bf is exactly the same :-( my little boy is now 8months.my partner willl lie in bed all day and get up when he wants to so that means i have to feed,wash and changed my son on my own as well as trying to get something to eat get washed and changed myself and try and do some housework :-( which isnt a problem it would just be nice to get some help once in a while. some men just dont know how hard it is to try and juggle a kid and try and do your day to day things.i hardly get time to eat because my little one is constant at the minute because hes teathing but still my bf wont help he will sit and watch tv and stuff his face while i struggle away.when my bf isnt around i seem to cope better as he always comments on how im doing things wrong which isnt the case,he expects me to do things like his sister does with her kids but im not his sister so why should i do things the same?we never get on,hes very insecure unfortunitly so nights out with the girls have completely stopped and when he goes in the huff he comments on my appearance :-( which makes me feel so [censored] so half the time i dont even want to do my hair etc which is very unlike me.and as for sex well ..... the thought of him near me makes my skin crawl :-( before i had my little boy things were completely different,but he always seems to come on to me and when i say no he pushes me away and doesnt speak to me which makes me not want sex even more,its always the same positions with him and he doesnt even hit the right spot anymore but i no if i tell him he wont be happy.iv been told time is a healer but in this instance i really dont think it is xxxx

Heyy my name is sophie
im only 4 and a half months pregnant and before i fell pregnant it felt like my partner wanted to be around me more now he is down the pub all the time and i dont know what i can say about it tbh as he cops and says its his life what about mine im left at home looking after my step son and cook clean wash the clothes and my day is filled i dont get no time to myself i dont mind some off it just dont know how to ask for him to look after him so as i can go out for once its so hard being in day and night pretty much and not seeing proper daylight just 4 walls with sunlight in the room the closest i go to going out now is downstairs when before our relationship used to be 50/50 and now its not and just iv had enough and cant decide what i want tried helping the situation but didnt work he now does it worse can anyone help i feel so lonely most off the time xxxx

I ve got a boy who is 2 years 9 months and my 2nd is due in 6 weeks and I know how u ladies feel. My husband, although he works hard and does long hours, is a lazy so and so at home. He hardly lifts a finger and only seems to bother with his son on HIS terms, when he is in the mood to play with him. I have to get up with our son, change his nappy, sort his meals, do bathtime and bedtime and most of the housework. Most of the time I suppose I didn't mind before but being 7.5 months pregnant I m bloody tired most of the time now and need help! Tried talking to him but in one ear and out the other. I just don't know what to do. Yes I know the timing is awful and really we shouldn't have tried to have another baby but we ve nearly split in the past and agreed to try to sort things out and things had improved and we both wanted another baby. I feel guilty arguing when my little boy is around so I tend to keep things quiet but then they build up and I end up exploding at my husband. He doesn't argue back and won't tell me how he is feeling. I think he thinks if he just lets me have a good rant and calm down things will be ok again in a day or 2. I no I am probably hormonal at the moment but I don't want to be with him but don't know what to do for the best for my son and my unborn baby.