Forum : Mums

Oh my word,you need to tell her or get your husband/partner to tell her straight away.I wouldnt have the bottle to do it i would make my husband do it cause its his mam.or you could always get her to read the replys you get from your messages on this site!!!!! good luck honey love carolyn xxx

hi i feel for you babe. my mother in law to be is the same. aaaaah i dont know how many times i try to talk to my partner to say something it never work, until i did. i was just honst. i hated everyone telling me what to do and what to give my daughter. just try to be calm and talk to her, after all its your child not hers, you know whats best for your own child. hope this helps xxxx

I know what you mean, i have a similar one.
Shes not too bad with my second partly because my sister in law told her not to to her what to do when she had her baby. My mother in law thinksd its ok to wean at 5 days old!!!!! and to potty train at 3 weeks!!!. I would advise you to tell her that you want to make your own mistakes and figure things out as you go along, tell her that you appriciate her knowledge and love tyhe fact that she is there to give you advice when you ask for it. I know its hard to do but if you or your partner dont say something it will only get worse.
Good luck

i had a simulir problem with my mother in law with my first she finaly gave him chocolate at 5months.that is when i finaly found the courage to tell her carmly that i didn't want him to have it and we had a little arguement i got my other half to have a word with her to let her know that he agreed with me . and a few months later we saw her again and everything was fine , she asks me first before she gives him anything and sometimes i say yes and sometimes i say no . the best thing to do is to tell her the truth and get your other half to back you up it may seem hard at first but in the end it will work out and you'll feel more in control and have a better relationship with her . good luck
tracyanne

my MIL is the complete opposite and complains about everything i do!! i only managed to breast feed for a week (i was suffering from PND) i just couldn't cope with it. and she called me a failure. My son is now a healthy 8mth old and is eating 8month jars - and seh complains they are unhealthy for him and compares me to her daughter (my Sister inlaw) who has a 5month old baby who apparently "spends hours steming fresh vegetables" i get really upset

Oh poppet, I guess i'm lucky. My other halfs mother did not bother with myself or James. She seen him when he was a day old then did not hear from her till he was 7.5 weeks. her excuse..I felt unwelcome. Me been me asked her if she wanted me to do cartwheels round the room when she walked in. Now she visits every monday for a hour!!!Longest hour of my life!! Good luck, hope you hubby can stuck up for his new family, men???? x

is also a pain, she has been staying with us for a month.she tries to take over and treats him like hers, she even goes in to our room and puts him in his cot and turned the baby monitor off in the middle of the day when he is wide awake and this just makes him scream, we had quiet a big row when i heard her slagging me off 2 my hubby and once we went visiting family and a relative was holding him and when he started crying wouldnt give him back!!! Its a night mare she tells me when to feed/change and even bath him and is always looking over my shoulder when i do anything esp when i change him as though she doesnt trust me.I tried to tell her i coped perfectly fine for 2 months b4 she came stickin her nose in and that he is our son but she just says"im only trying to help" well back off then and let me be his mum

It's really hard - mine is constantly wanting to look after our baby, always coming around and constantly questioning me if he has been fed or slept - it bothers me so much, I just agree with everything she says when I'm with her and then do what want afterwards - my husband finds it overwhelming too - but we don't want to hurt her feelings - but I'd love to say something!!

you have to tell your mil not to give your baby honey!!!!
Don't give honey to your baby until he or she is a year old. Very occasionally, honey can contain a type of bacteria that can produce toxins in a baby's intestines. This can cause serious illness (infant botulism). After a baby is a year old, the intestine matures and the bacteria can't grow...
i really dont want to worry you and your baby is probably ok because he would have been sick by now but tell her not to give him hoeny again!

I can really sympathise with you.My little girl was a big baby (9lb3) I tried to breast feed her,but she just fed constantly and I had a really tough labour so had to give it up after 3 weeks. I was so upset and M.I.L. just made it worse by saying inspired comments like "well, it's best to bottle feed because you just dont know what shes getting otherwise". I knew baby was getting enough - she had put 3oz on on her first home weigh in!!!She used to try and give my baby whipped cream off her finger, chocolate cream off a cake - all sorts.My husband finally spoke to her and explained our reasons - it's their job because she is his mother and we have enough just dealing with our own mothers comments!!! It's not a nice job but unfortunetely he has to do it to protect your baby who is your primary concern. Good luck!