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Hey how old is your little girl? i do thin this makes a difference. ur body really does change alot when u have a baby and i think most people dont think about what ul feel like after. everything changes, your boobs ur hips ur ribs everything ur skin even feels different.
i hate my body for a long time until one day i just decided that this is what iv got and i have to make the best of it.
dont get me wrong im not saying its just hormonal or you shud just get over it i thin it can be so depressing. do you think u cud be suffering with abit of depression?

i did find that i in fact felt more comfortable with abit more weight on me, not alot more just a little more. have u gone out and bought yourself new clothes, new bras? this makes a massive difference. ur old clothing doesnt fit the same and usually its worn out. get a new hair cut, get ur nails done. or maybe get a tan this always makes me feel sexier. get some nice underwear. i still wear my secret pants they wor wonders. but a good bra and well fitted clothes really do make u feel differnt about yourself.

and remember. ur OH is the only person who has to see u naked and he will thin ur even sexier just coz uv had his baby. men dont think the way we do. or even the way they think they do.
u shud def speak to ur oh tell himhow u feel.

and u know what else. dont under estimate a good night out. get all dressed up hair make up nice underwear nice dress/outfit heels. get rid of ur lo for abit and get ur man to take u out for dinner or to bar or whatever u like doing. i love doing this and not being a mum for an evening makes a HUGE difference just being a woman and a couple. or go out with ur friends and its ok when men look and u enjoy it compliments go a thousand miles!!!

i really hope u feel better soon. xx

Hi Maddis mum, I'm the same since I had my last baby - I'm older though at 41 now so that's made a difference. When I had my first baby I was size 10-12 and lost the weight after 6 months of having her and apart from a bit of a jelly belly was quite confident about my body. But I put weight on after being on a/ds and when I fell pregnant with my son I was 12 stone (and only 5') and size 18+, I was still confident then though - but after he was born I breastfed and didn't eat enough and the weight dropped off really quickly and I went down to 9.5 stone but am left with saggy tummy and boobs and feel less confident now than when I was big. So I know exactly how you feel. But like sweetiemummy says, our men don't seem to notice these things! My hubby still gropes me at every single opportunity lol so I just try to think that if he still loves me and finds me attractive then so what if I'm not the same shape as I used to be - you're never going to be the same after having children. Its just a matter of getting your own head round that and being happy in yourself.
Maybe if you went to the gym or some exercise classes like pilates you'd feel better about yourself? Sometimes just having that time to yourself can work wonders.
But if you are really feeling so low about it then maybe it could be something more - a touch of depression? Tell your partner how you are feeling, I'm sure that he will reassure you and if you continue to feel so down about yourself then think about speaking to your gp.
You've done the most amazing thing in the world by growing and giving birth to your baby, and your body is bound to show the signs of that, but doesn't make it worse just different and hopefully you'll accept the new you one day and be happy with it! :-))xx