Forum : Mums

Hi, it doesn't sound pathetic at all, I've suffered from depression for years and when it got bad most of my 'friends' disappeared so I don't have many now and none that live in my village and I really miss being able to pop round to a friends house for coffee and a chat or have a girly night in with. It can be very isolating if you aren't working too, I only work 5 hours a week now due to my husbands shifts but I think those 5 hours are just keeping me sane! Maybe you could get something part time just a few hours to get you out of the house? I actually find it a break going to work lol!
I know what you mean about toddler groups, I've only recently ventured to them and I put a post on the other day as I feel so out of place there and nobody really speaks to me (although my son is a bit of a whirlwind so I'm constantly running round after him!) and I thought maybe its because I'm older! Its very hard especially when you have depression and anxiety and your confidence is low, maybe next time try to strike up a conversation with one of the other mums and see how it goes. There is the find a friend thingey on this website too, although it does tend to list everyone in your area even ones who haven't been on the site for years and may have changed their email address since, but worth a try.
I've made some really lovely friends on here, nobody near me but its nice to know that people are there to support you or just have a chat and a laugh when you need it, so don't feel alone. Are you on a/ds at the moment? Just keep in touch with your gp and health visitor and let them know if you are struggling a bit, if you are on meds it may be that they need reviewing if you've been on them a while.
I do feel for you, most of the time I feel like a hermit as when my husbands at work I tend not to venture out of the house but it probably just makes things worse!
How about having a date night with your hubby, where you leave everything else and just spend time together after the baby is in bed and talk about your day or week and get close again. Its hard when you've had no adult conversation all day and husband doesn't want to talk either - mine usually comes in from work grumpy lol! Anyway anytime you need to talk there are lots of lovely mums on here who are all going through similar things, keep your chin up :-))xxx

i dont know much about depression, but being a mum can be isolating. i dont have many friends that i can pop round to - most of them work or dont have children. my daughter is now nearly 4 yrs old and i am 35 wks pregnant with our second baby. i have given up work and wont be going back after my maternity leave and i do worry about how i will feel about not going back to work when the time comes. i went back to work part time once i had my daughter and it was nice to have just those 2 days out of the house for a bit of adult company. my partner is very busy with our business and although we do get a couple of hours together in the evening which is nice, it is still hard knowing that i basically spend all day and then most of the evening on my own. although my daughter being older means that at least i do get some conversation even if it is only about kiddie things!
that is where this site comes in very useful though - not only for information but for chats too. there are a few of us who are on here very regularly - buffy and myself with a few of the other ladies are regularly chatting - we start a thread and then it ends up going on to a different conversation just about anything!
if you ever feel you want a chat just come on here, there is usually someone on to chat to. x

Thanks buffy13 and livi's mummy.

Its nice to know I'm not the only one.

I know in reality that things aren't that bad as what I feel. Its just this PND really sucks, make things feel worse than ever. Medication still ongoing, and does help a bit, but I tried not to take it or depend on it too much, because sometimes I feel like I am very sick (going crazy) mommy and might end up in mental hospital.

Anyway, thanks for sharing stories with me.

hey hun i hope ur feelin a bit better 2day,it just goes 2 show they werent ur real friends,lyfe is how u make it it tok me a long tyme 2 realize dat so i try n enjoy everyday as it cums xx if u ever need 2 chat we r all here 4 u babe xxx

I have post natal depression, i think this is due to my birth going wrong and what happened during it. I am a mum of 5 and have never had it before but i know how you feel. I feel like i am the only one this is happening to right now and my partner doesn't really understand it either. It is causing problems in our relationship as i am feeling paranoid about women that work with him. You are definately not alone in this as i feel like i am losing the plot too. Talking about it to other people that are the same really helps. I agree with the other lady true friends stick by you no matter what. I love my little boy and my other children and they get me through the day along with the antidepressents. Take care of yourself and you will get through it. xx

Hi!
iv never had PND but this pregnancy iv have suffered with antenatal depression and iv felt very similiar to this. alot of my friends havent got children so im left with literally a couple that have stuck around or still invite me out even tho they know i wont be drinking. i am also young and i didnt fit in with the toddler groups.
my partner works very hard, especially this time of year, and we dont end up doing alot the only day we get is sunday and then he ussually doesnt want to do anything coz hes been out ojn the saturday. this upsets me alot sometimes.
also i have spent most of the pregnancy really paranoid about one girl in particular that was actually my friend to start with but since iv been pregnant she has hardly spoken to me no phone calls txts or visits even when i try with her but she txts my OH constantly and when everyone goes out on a saturday night and im sat at home pregnant and looking after my little girl i know shes out with him (obv with other ppl too)
thats got alot better now and id o trust him.

you are not alone in feeling like this its not pathetic at all altho i get why ufeel like that coz i do sometimes!
i think talking to ur OH really helps let him know how u feel.
perhaps u have ur parents/his parents or someone who can take ur baby for the evening and u and ur OH can go out for dinner or something and perhaps he can invite a mate from work who also has a wife/girlfriend?

i have been feeling very up and down and all over the place seen i had my son in march 2011, at the momnet i feel so down and low and all alond. i am a single mum to my son and have no support from anyone.
i am feeling that i really can't cope any more.
any one know where i can get some support from