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Is it PND? 12 months after the birth?

sazza85

Since having my daughter 12 months ago, i suffered the baby blues quite badly and thought that her birth was a traumatic experience.

I been having bouts of feeling low on and off through out the year, mainly when i thought i felt ok i was pre occupied organising events ie) our wedding and my daughters Christening, moving house. maybe i arranged these to keep myself busy.

We are struggling to make ends meet with money which is making the situation worse and have applied for benefits to help us through, but they think we have enough money to run the house and offer us very little help even though they had us down for earning _400 extra than we actually are.

Ive lost all my confidence in myself and the thought of goin back to work petrifies me.

My daughter can really stress me outand i have a very short fuse at the moment.

I went to see my health visitor about 6 months ago and i did the PND questionaire and the results came back as Boarder line PND, so she checked up a couple of times after that and i had a nurse from the delivery suit visit me to explain the traumaties of my birth - which helped. I thought i was feeling better, but i felt like such a time waster when i was receiving the help, i think talking about it helped a lot and thats why i felt better.

I dont know what to do, my life feels such a mess at the moment, and me and my husbad are arguing over money, i feel im to blame as im not working, but i cant help the way im feeling at the moment.

If some one has or experinceing anything similar at the moment please right back

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Posted on 12/06/2008 10:12:42

Sassy_1

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Hi hun, sounds like there is a lot of stress in your life right now, i don't know if you've got pnd or just depression, but i would seriously consider going to the doctor to find out hun, either way, these feelings don't dissapear over night i have pnd my self and i was diagonsed when my lo was 4 months, but i still have my moments even now, so i can kinda understand how your feeling, talking to others is a great benefit wether your talking about how your feeling that day or just about life in general, it's a really good out let, keeping things bottled up just makes things worse, ive found. If you ever fancy a chat about anything my email is sarahjkendrick@tisacali.co.uk. Your very welcome to email me anytime and i'll get back to you as soon as i can. Take care and get yourself some help, this will help get your confidence back in the long run xxxx

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Posted on 12/06/2008 11:03:50

mumandchloe

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HI sazza

First thing, dont you dare feel like your the one to blame. You brought a life into this world and you shouldn't be made to feel like its all a nightmare and be forced back into work especially when your not ready. I had quite a bad birth and pregnancy which triggered my PND i was put on medication but didnt want to stay on it and took myself off which of course just made me even worse!!! It does sound like PND because thats exactly how i was feeling. Its so hard and try and tell your partner how your feeling because its very hard for them to understand. I couldnt even be in the same room as my daughter and my partner just thought I was cruel but its like something is taking over you and your body and your not the same person anymore. You are going to find it stressful with your daughter name a mum who doesnt... i just take a few deep breaths see her smile at me and think what on earth am i stressing for? Things will fall into place, i think you should express your fears and concerns with your partner or family dont deal with this on your own! I found talking to other people who went through the same thing really helped made me feel like oh right im not the only one then.

I hope you start to feel yourself soon xxx

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Posted on 12/06/2008 11:07:46

sazza85

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Thank you for your advice, i think ill make an appointment with my doc and HV again.

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Posted on 15/07/2008 12:45:39