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Hi hun, have you talked to your hv about post natal depression, or the baby blues, it might be that, i certainly did a lot of what your saying, and i have pnd, so it might be worth talking to them, as they can really help, infact just talking about your emotions can be a big relief, not having to bottle them up, have you tried talking to your partner about how you feel, perhaps that'll reassure him you do still love him. Take care hun, don't be afraid to ask for help, i did, and it's the best thing i could of done xxxx

hi just sounds like you have a bit of the blues. i think it is a good idea that you come on these forums and just tell us how you feel. that is the first step. I often make a post on this site doesnt amtter what the issue is about and i get loads of replies from the other mums. maybe you are a little lonely. or maybe you just need a good sleep and rest. could someone not take your kids and let you and your partner have a break. what ever you do dont go taking antidepressants. try some st johns wort or some herbal remedy from the local health food store

i know how you feel i think i have pnd but wont admit to my partner. We constantly argue about the slightest thing and i have very dark moods which i know i am in but cant help. I find it very lonely being in all day with my 6.5 month old even though I see family each day but when they go I suddenly feel very alone and dread the time when I am on my own with him. I miss being at work and seeing friends there and i am really looking forward to going back next month - does this seem wrong to look forward to going back to work???

I know how you feel as well. It can feel very hard sometimes having a little babe being so dependant on you. Make sure you get out evryday, even if it's raining.

Try to get your partner to have little one in the evenings so that you can pamper yourself. A nice long soak in the bath etc. Even going to the supermarket by yourself can be good!!!

Keep in touch.

HI hun, how are you doing, keep in touch xxx

thank you all for your advice and id like you all to keep in touch from jeanene

Hi Jeanene, I know exactly how you feel I've been feeling the same way as you I spoke to my HV about it and she advised me to see my doctor as it sounded like I was suffering from PND. The doctor confirmed this and perscribed anti-depressants I've been on them about a month now and starting to feel better, my moods aren't as bad and the arguments with my hubby are alot less I'm also bonding much better with my baby - she is 13 months - thats how long it took me to admit how I was feeling!! so my advise to you would be speak to your HV first and go from there...you might just feel better talking about things - but you have made the first major step of admitting how you feel...so well done! take care chick & keep in touch xxx

Jojo1712 - Hiya chick, no it doesn't sound wrong about wanting to back to work, I was the same as you a few months back I hated being on my own with my baby and would find any excuse to get out the house or leave her with someone else, and I also couldn't wait to get back to work, but since admiting I have PND and taking the tablets I love being on my own with her - I still have my off days though! but feel like things are on the up and there is light at the end of the tunnell! so again I would advise you to speak to your HV & go from there - things do get better in time...believe me! take care chick & keep in touch xxx

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hello everyone im new at this, i have a 5month old baby boy his so big, i,ve read most of the post on this page and i agree with some of the things being said i feel like crying most of the time i try and keep myself really busy so i don't think about it, i left my partner last november while i was pregnant i stated getting depressed around that time it didn't help with him and his family saying that i cheated on him and the baby wasn't even his so now im going through the courts because he wants access to him and a DNA test doing i know when i put it like that i'm being difficult but i have my reasons for doing so. has anyone ever made the wrong choice then decided differently afterwould thats how i feel.
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