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Postnatal depression & baby bluesBaby blues - and never been pregnant!
Hi there
I have adopted my two children - one at 19mths old and the most recent at 9mths old. Both are beautiful and I love them more than the world, and couldn't possibly be without them.
Wanted to ask about the possibility of baby blues even though not hormonal??
With my eldest, I cried for the first few weeks. And with my new one, I felt all het-up, anxious and weepy for the first week or so. I knew it was the same thing happening again. I didn't dare tell anyone the first time round, for fear of someone seeing I couldn't cope and removing my baby. This time, I am much more confident being a new mum again, and don't feel quite so panicky, but still sometimes, I feel like I should be so grateful and happy for what I've got and yet, I feel quite sad. (This isn't regretting my lack of pregnancy or anything. I have grieved and got over that side of things over the past 5 years).
Wondered if there's any other non-biological mum out there who has suffered baby blues too??
Hi i'm not in your situation, but it seems to me that having any young child is a very emotional experince and lets face it very exhuasting as well, and that can really get you down, so it sounds to me like a kinda of baby blues, so hang in there things will get better, just take things one day at a time xxxx
Thanks Sassy. Yes it is an emotional experience, and I've suffered bouts of depression in the past and can recognise the symptons coming a mile off, but on these 2 occasions of becoming a mum, it struck me out of the blue, completely.
I think it's the build up of expectations and assumptions, on how we dream things will happen, how things will go, and how we'd cope and behave with a baby. When it's the only thing that you've dreamed of in your whole life, how can it reduce you to tears when all yours dreams have come true??
I know with a pregnancy and giving birth the hormones must play a massive part, but yet without all that, for me, I felt more hormonal and pre-menstral than ever before in my life!!
I think I've turned the corner now and every day seems a little easier. Routine definately helps!
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Posted on 26/06/2008 20:30:56