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ah honey
dont be so hard on yourself, it is hard when you just have a baby.
why do you feel you have failed you carried your baby for 9 mths you got through
a very long labour and you have got through 11 weeks all that is an achievement.
I felt like you a few weeks ago,my baby is 10wks. it is overwhelming even for me mine is my 4th. keep going to mother and baby clubs or maybe look at other things you and baby can dotogether ie-:baby massage,swimming, you will get through this have you spoke to your doctor as you may have postnatal depresssion.its stil early days and you are still ajusting to motherhood dont forget you havent done it before its all new.
dont give up your doing great as your baby gets older things will settle down just give yourself time and relax it will happen i promise enjoy him it goes very quick.
take care hun i wish you all the luck in the world hugs Donna xxx

oh love please dont be so hard on your self,im sure you are doing just fine,you have done a wonderful job,you carried your baby and gave birth and now i am sure you do your best to look after him,
he is very young and being a parent is the hardest job in the world as there are no instructions or rights or wrongs you just bumble through each day hoping to get it right,
i have 2 children aged 8 yrs and 21 months and it is hard i have days where i want some me time and wish i could run and keep running but then i think i have 2 precious little boys who many women would give all they had for,
your partner will have a different bond than you as you do all the mundane boring stuff and hey daddy comes in after a break all day a probably a good nights sleep so he is refreshed to play and patent enough where as you have been rushing around all day and night and you are tired to put it politely,
as the above post says as your son gets a bit older things will start to settle down,when he is in a routine and sleeps through,but just give it time as at the moment you are both getting used to each other and it takes alot of adjustment,
but please let me assure you you are not the only person to feel like this,there were many times i used to phone my mum and say i cant do it i am so tired i give up,idont no what to do,please help but it does pass i promise and you will look back at your wonderful son and wonder what it was all about,no one expects you to put a brave face on,if they are parents they will understand what you feel like and you never no if you talk to people they may actually help you as there is nothing wrong with needing some help from time to time,after i had my 2 i was a blithering wreck for a while and i was always armed with tissues,lots of love and just relax and take it easy,enjoy it as they grow up so fast belive me.you son is a little miracle

Trust me hun, it's not just you!!!!, most first time mums,find the shock of parent hood, i certainly did!!, i didn't have a good birth either and my lo had collic and reflux really bad, so i know what your going through, hang in there, things do get better, try to form some kind of routine and get your self out and about a bit, this did wonders for me, though don't beat yourself up if things do go to routine, it's not that important. You obviously love him and care so don't beat yourself up, try setting aside a little time each day where you do something together just the two of you be it baby massage or just playing bathing whaterver, and your soon feel a strong bond. Tkae care hun, i'm always here if you need a chat xxx

I had a similar time with my first baby 4 years ago. You are not alone. It does get easier, but if you think you have PND then please get help. I did, and it was invaluable.