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I know wot you mean my partner is exactly the same. I have 3 children he does spend time with them but doesnt except how hard it is when he not there. He refuses to look after all 3 on his own. If i go upstairs even for just five mins peace he'll send my eldest 2 up. It makes me feel so low at times but when i point this out to him we have huge fight

hey i know how you feel, although my partner doesnt go out drinking, it seems as if he makes excuses all the time to not look after my 7 month old which really gets me down. he has taken her out once on his own since she was born and that was for a walk for 20 minutes while i finished cooking dinner (she was about 3 months) hes looked after her twice at home while ive gone shopping for a few hours but thats it. i go back to work in august, and will be working saturdays while my partner is off on the weekends, but i know he will be finding overtime so that he doesnt have to look after her and my mum will have her. after all of this, i dont feel i want my partner to have her on his own anyway, im scared he'll forget to give her her tea or shell be up until i get home from work (which will be about 10pm). he wont bath her, hasnt made any bottles for about 2 months, doesnt know how to make her food up, and would probably just leave her sat in her bouncer all day if i wasnt home

Hi,
I agree with you miss bump, no one can do it like we can and then the only other person I have complete faith in is my Mum, she lives in Spain :-(((((

mine is the same sweet. yes my other half does work hard but i clean up after him. sort out all the bills. look after my son and if it was not for my mother in law i would never get a break. he can go out with his mates go around his mates house but i feel like im asking him to babysit if he has our son. and ask ages in advance. so your not alone sweet.

I'm glad to hear this debate as it seems I'm not alone. I also wonder when a bottle will be made, volunteer for a bath or even go to him when he cries. Aparently this is now my job and whilst his only last 8 hours a day, mine is 24 hours! We have spoken, he is a great dad & partner but this is one thing that we do find hard to balance. I can't even nip to Tesco for milk without having to take him with me! I know it will happen one day, that he'll come home from work and say 'go get yourself ready and go out with the girls, i'll have the baby' but I may be waiting a long time... He's only looked after our 5 month old son once which was for 4 hours. Whenever i say i need a break he asks why my mum can't have him. He doesn't understand why i want him to have him....

I'm having severe dejavu, this sounds exactly like me and my daughters dad (now my ex) he used to come home and moan when everything wasn't done the way he likes it and then moan when his tea wasn't made and then expewct me to care for OUR daughter whilst he went and got rather pissed. He even used to roll over in the night and wake me and say "she's crying" god i could have slapped him, but instead i packed his stuff told him he had 3 hours to collect it or i would personally take it to the charity shop needless to say he was round in an hour lol

Im not suggesting that just stand up to him and tell him exactly how you feel and tell him he needs to man up and be a dad and not just a sperm donar !