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Thats brilliant news. Glad your all ok and well. Happy belated birthday to Olivia. I know what you mean about time though, it just seems to have flown by. Paige is now 7 months. X x x

hi claire
i just cant believe it. those early weeks that i swore i'd remember this time round seem such a long time ago and i cant remember them! i wondered if i couldnt remember the early weeks with olivia because i was so stressed out making sure she was feeding enough, warm enough, changed enough.... well, this time i wasnt stressing and worried - i was just going with it and not panicking about every little thing but i still cant remember anything! it must just be your body's way of dealing with constant feeding and sleep deprivation!

i was hoping to hold off weaning freya until closer the 6 month mark (had to wean livi at 17 weeks) but i just dont think she'll hold off that long - she has just upped her feeds to 7oz so i am running out of space to go in terms of increasing the oz to get her to 6 months! better prep those weaning bowls and my blender ready for those purees!

the thing i dont understand is that she just isnt gaining weight at the same rate as livi - freya has actually dropped a centile now. hv thinks she is just growing in length rather than weight and i tend to agree as she has been in 3-6 month sleepsuits since 10 weeks old! think she is probably going to be taller than olivia is - and olivia is already tall for her age! neither of them are going to take after me then - i am definitely vertically challenged!

hiya, so sweet, ive got 8weeks to go, And lots of questions for ya. lol!

1.Did everything about looking after a new born all come back to you pretty much straight away?
2.Were you more or less panicky about the birth?
3.Was it as magical as with 1st baby for you and Partner when you got to take her home for 1st time in her new car seat (did olivia come too, and what was her face like?)
4.Do you now feel totally fulfilled in that your family is now complete?

Hugs & lovage.xxx LK.

...oh and i forgot to ask. If you don't mind answering.
5. What gift did you buy for Olivia from Freya?

=)

only 8 weeks left - so exciting!!!!

1 - yes it did all come back! adam was amazed as i picked freya up and changed her nappy and got her dressed without having to think about what i was doing!

2 - less panicky. but my two experiences were totally different. to be honest, freya's birth was so quick i barely had time to realise i was in labour and bam, there she was! i remember the midwife saying, "the head is out and a couple more pushes and the body will be bor...oh, hang on, dont move she's coming out on her own!"

3 - yes and no. it isnt as romantic as first time you've already done the whole thing of bringing the baby home so although doing it with the second is a lovely time, you're there as a complete family etc . for me, was more, awww, how lovely we're home...right, now i need to get that washed....and a feed etc etc etc. i felt a lot more matter of fact and practical about the whole thing. getting things sorted and back to normal (ish) was important for olivia's sake.
olivia was with my parents. i'd been in hospital for 2 days prior to freya's birth so she'd stayed with them and mum had said that she'd keep her for a few hours after we got back so that we could get settled, unload my hospital bags before olivia came back. we got home at 4.30pm (freya was born just before 1am) and mum and dad brought olivia home at about 6pm. livi walked in and said "oh, the baby's here" and carried on playing like having a new baby was an every day thing! what is lovely now though is that she looks at my tummy and rubs it and laughs and says "oh, baby's not in there anymore"!

4 - yes! i'd love to give birth again, but i dont want anymore children. family is definitely complete.

i've been very lucky in that both my girls have been very good babies, sleeping through the night early on, settling themselves into routines and pretty much sticking to them (apart from freya's little mess around of the last few days!). i can say that i havent been as worried about every little thing like i was with olivia. i used to count every single oz that went into olivia to make sure she got enough and if she was down a few oz on day then i'd worry! i havent done any of that with freya, i havent oz counted and i've just let her do what she wanted to do. it has been a much more relaxing experience this time round. BUT, that doesnt mean that say that i havent had meltdowns.....i had one last night for example. being at home with two children is b*****y hard work!

olivia was into sylvanian families by the time freya came along, so freya got her a car to go with that. i was going to get a doll for olivia but couldnt find one which i liked and then the sylvanian thing came up prior so we just went with that!

Hi Shelly,sounds like you are all keeping really well. I can't believe how quickly time flys-i've only got 3 weeks left till my second baby girl is due! Is a weird feeling,feel like i could be pregnant forever! Just hoping this LO comes sooner rather than later x

hi beth
yes, everything is going well!
only 3 weeks left! i feel so out of touch - it doesnt seem that long since you said you were pregnant! have you got any names picked?

I know! Feeling a bit scared about the thought of having two LO's to look after as everyone keeps telling me how much hard work it is. We 'think' she is going to be an ' Isabelle'. Ruby is now 20 months old and i think she understands im having a baby so hoping she will like her sister! She keeps kissing and singing to my bump and even told her to come out lol. Did you find Freya more demanding as a newbrorn than Olivia? Ruby was quite a good baby so hoping this girlie is too x

i love that name! i wanted to call Freya either Isabelle or Isabella but my other half wasnt as keen on it as i was!
erm, yes and no! i think freya is slightly harder work naturally - she doesnt seem to be as content just sat watching me, whereas i could sit olivia in her bouncy chair and get on with things as long as i was talking to her she'd just sit and watch, but the second freya isnt in my arms she goes slightly crazy! but, in others ways olivia was harder because i didnt know what i was doing so everything seems like an uphill struggle whereas it doesnt feel like that with the second - if you only focus on the second. throw the eldest back into the mix and dealing with that second newborn is hard work! freya was bigger at birth so seemed to settle into a feeding pattern much more quickly as she wasnt trying to catch up for a smaller birth weight. olivia was 6lb 1oz born at 39+6, whereas freya was 7lb 6oz born at 37 weeks.
i think it's just swings and roundabouts really - there are going to be things which are easier because they are different children, but then having a newborn is always hard regardless of how "easy" they are.
i think another difference for anything i've found hard is that i've gone from having an independent, then, 3 yr old who was potty trained, played by herself etc etc to going back to a totally dependent little one. whereas you arent that far out of having had a small baby so it may be an easier transition for you to make! i hadnt changed a nappy for a year so although it all came flooding back it was weird to be going back to it again!