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sorry 2 hear about ur miscarrage i cant say i no how i feel cuz i dnt buh u can concerntrate on the fact have another beautiful daughter x

I do no how u feel i've had a few my self & its not easy but the pain does lessen with time there is nothing u could of done 2 of prevented it from happening & it also doesn't mean that it will happen again if u need to chat i'm here nearly every evening

I'm so sorry it happened to you too. I've just gone through the same thing last week, my son is 11 months old. It's hard but it does get better, I've tried to enjoy my son as much as I can and I try to accept that it's natures way. I'm starting to feel a little bit better, I hope you will do too. All the best. x

Hi
I had a m/c at 10 half weeks in Spet 2005. A close friend told me one piece of advice - grieve. Over time it does get easier. Also ensure you talk to your partner because they can be overlooked - they have lost a baby too.

hi iam sorry 2 here that u had a m/c i was 9weeks plus when i had mine on the 6th of july 2007 on my partner`s birthday and the day i got on hoilday i also got told that
i wouldent be able to have anymore and now iam 24wks pregnant my partner
once told me never give up on life all the best.x

I have a beautiful daughter who is 3 but before her I had two miscarriages and was diagnosed with endometreosis only to be told I may not conceieve again. I have just found out I am pregnant again and I am petrified. I cant be happy cos I am so worried something will go wrong- help

Sorry to hear of your loss. I had a miscarriage last march, two days before my birthday. I was very lucky to fall pregnant agin 3 months later and my daughter was born the day after my birthday this year. I am a great believer in fate and believe things happen for a reason. When I fell pregnant the second time my job had changed and I was alot happy in myself.
Don't give up, you will never forget your loss
x

I had a miscarriage at 7-11weeks in Februaury and thought things were getting easier. We have recently deceided to start trying again and each month I am anxiously awaiting to see if i am pregnant. I feel it is taking over my life and that it will never happen again. It makes it harder as everyone around me is pregnant and wonder why it can't happen to me.

I have had 3 miscarriages, ranging from 8 weeks - 3 months. It is difficult to deal with, but the best advice i would give, is to not keep your feelings bottled up, i did on one of mine and through i dealt with it by myself, but about a year later i needed to start councelling for 6 months to convince me that it wasn't my fault.
It is a difficult time, but things do get easier. My later miscarriage happened about a year ago and i have a 2 year old to deal with, it was stressful as i just wanted to cry for most of the time, but the pain has now gone away and i have a 6 week old son as well.
Trust me, there is always a reason this happens and the reason is never your fault...
xxx

Its always horrible to see how many people have gone through miscarriages I think, and yet you never really hear people talk about it much. I have had 4 in the last year, ranging from 6 weeks to 12 weeks. I agree with the need to talk about it - for me telling my good friends about the worst thoughts and memories about it helped, because otherwise I kept reliving things in my head and had lots of nightmares etc. I also altered my expectations for each subsequent pregnancy, just hoping for each to last as long as it could and if it made it to term it would be a huge bonus. That way somehow we managed to stay positive even when things seemed to get lower and lower. I really never knew I could cry quite so much as I have either, but it does seem sometimes that there is this big pot of tears inside that has to come out whether you like it or not and then once you have emptied it, you can begin to start getting a little stronger again. I am 26 weeks pregnant now, and after each miscarriage found great consolation in the fact we could actually get pregnant, its important to remember that I think, at least we all got over one of the main hurdles! Still not convinced it will work out this time, but you just never know - this might be the one.

Deepest sympathies to all of you and biggest warmest hugs. Best of luck next time.

Be.x