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i am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you at this hard time, my mum had to give birth to my sister sleeping at 30 weeks she died in her, she always says she will never forget her and the moment she held her but she did say that things got better, really hope you get through this, rip to your little girl xx

Hi Jeannie, you will still be in shock at the moment. My husband and i got through it by talking about our baby girl and we put her photo on the mantlepiece with some teddies and a candle and every year on the day she was born, and the day she was due we light the candle. You will feel like you will never get through this but you will, it will take time and you need to let yourself grieve properly.
A lady posted this poem some time ago and it brought me comfort reading it

http://www.cowandgate.co.uk/forums_and_friends/forums/mums/losing_a_baby/thread/A_poem_for_all_angel_babies_taken_too_soon_x_400487

Just you take care, keep talking to your partner. Big hugs xxxxx

my heart goes out to you. xxx

im so,so sori abwt ur loss my heart is wd u xxx

I am so so sorry to hear about ur heartbreaking loss!
i watched my best friend go through exactly the same thing and 8 months later she is still struggling everyday. remember u r stronger than you think, just take each day at a time. Your time will come xxx

Hi, you r so right, until it happens to us, we think it never will.
Then we are hit by this bomb, that leaves us damaged for the rest of our lives.
I lost my baby 2 years ago, I was so happy to be pregnant, I was above heaven, then I come falling down faster than rain. How do you cope with is and move on? To me that is a question without an answer. You just pick yourself up, and carry on because live itself and people around you expect you to.
I spent my first week in doors, not wanting to go out, then when I finally went out, I had this impression that people knew what had happened, and it made me feel such a failure as a person. It also didn_t help when some people decided to tell me that they knew what I was going through, because they were there when it happened to their sister, and simple made all about herself, not even about her sister(beware of people like that, they will put you even more down).
Thank you to sweetiemummy, that knows how to express herself in the correct way.In my point of view, she was supportive to you, and her friend and didn_t insult any one.
She made me smile.
One good friend told me, (she also lost a baby), you will feel down for a long time, don_t rush to please any one, it you that matters, also be careful of depression, it thrives on sadness like this one.
I still have this missing part, that I will never be able to find again, I say we are like an incomplete puzzle, that you care for so much, that you can never throw it away.
As I right this to you I stare at my beautiful 8 month baby girl, she is the light of my life, but I miss my little baby boy to, can imagine yet how I will tell her about him.
I think of him everyday, I just wanted to be pregnant at the time, and find a way to have him back, It was some time until I realized I would never have him back physically, still can_t believe it really. And I could go on forever, but you sadly got the picture already.
Try to be strong, and I am always here if you want to talk.
Take care xxxx

im sorry about your loss, cant imagine what you have been through, im sure everyone is being supportive in their own way on here, it is hard to put into words how sorry we are if we have not been through it ourselves, and experiences we have had (if it was a close friend or relative) sometimes does feel like we are trying to help as we have seen someone close get through this awful time, so don't take any comments to heart or that they are making it about yourself as said it is hard to put into words. i really hope you can get through this, we are stronger than what we feel sometimes, take one day at a time and we are all here if you need a chat xx

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Im so sorry for your loss thinking of you xxxxx

I'm so sorry for ur loss. It's such a devastating thing. My friend went through the same thing but as a friend I knew I had to just be there for her and be a shoulder to cry on. My thoughts r with u xxx