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I know exactly how you feel. I have two beautiful boys but m/c in between them in Nov 2004, again after my 2nd in dec 2006, i am expecting again - was expecting twins but have lost 1 of them, thankfully 1 is still ok thou. The hurt of loosing my babies has never gone away and I dont think it ever will, but it does make my boys even more special and i think with time it does get slightly easier. Until people have experienced the loss in my opinion they have no right to comment it is one of the most awful things i have ever had to deal with.

I lost a baby, well at my 12 week scan they found out the baby had edwards syndrome which means my baby would either die inside or at birth. The doctors told me I should terminate the pregnancy as it is unfair. So thats what i did. It was an awful time for me my world came to an end. I got very depressed even now Im still getting over it. I didnt really talk to anyone and looking back i wish i had. But a few months after i got pregnant with my baby who I have now.The strange thing is she was due on the exact date I lost my first. It helped me to believe that it was my first coming back, but this time she was ready.Sometimes its just not the right time. I know its hard, but you will find a way to move on; you will never forget your baby as i wont and i dont want to. But my baby is so beautiful i am so greatful for her, she is that little bit more special. Dont let people put you down for being upset you will heal in your own time.

i lost my first baby at 28wks only last july due to my blood clotting in my placenta. i thought i wud never get over the pain but 1 month later a was pregnant again, this time i gave birth to a healthy baby boy 5wks ago, at first i found it hard to accept as the baby i lost had also been a boy but its getting easier! the love you have for your first child will never be replaced by your second child.

Hi

I don't think you can ever really get over losing a baby. My little girl was stillborn at 24 weeks on my 21st birthday. It took me 13 years to find the courage to try to get pregnant again, I was so afraid the same thing would happen. I gave birth to my gorgeous baby boy just over 3 weeks ago and for the first week or so I felt like I couldnt connect with him, I was so scared that something would take him away from me that I let it stand in the way of our bonding. Almost 4 weeks on things are slowly getting better but I know I will never forget my little girl. I love my little fella to bits but will always wish he had his sister.

Take Care

Dx

Hi,
I had a m/c about 10 days ago, even though it was early on-about 7 or 8 weeks- we are heartbroken. I was so well and it has been a big shock. I felt that i had made a link already,the loss of the feeling of being pregnant has been really hard. We have been told to try again and I'm glad of all the positive endings on the forum! deb

i'm so sorry to hear of your loss, i had a miscarriage to, about three years ago. I was 11 weeks and although now i have a beautiful little girl and boy i still think about him, it wasn't untill i was pregnant with my son i realised that i had to do something about the way i feeling. so i went to my local church and laid some flowers for him. I like to think that all of our children who have sadly been taken away, were going to do something so special in their lives that god wanted them in heaven with him. xx

hello, i am new to this forum and havent actually miscarried but my mum miscarried when i was 5. i remember how upset she was and it was so distressing to see her crying all the time.... i used to tell her it will be ok. i know now, none of my family has forgotten my baby brother, we still talk about him and what he would be like if he had lived.... all i can tell you, from a siblings point of view, is the pain doesnt go away, it just gets easier to cope with. i still think about him now, 16 years on. and i do cry occasionally. i cant tell you the pain will go away because i dont know what it feels like to lose a child, but you will manage, i promise...

hi i understand what you are going through i have lost 3 children my 1st after 17hrs and 2 at 22wks preganat and the pain never stops it becomes part of you. You will get to a point when you think i don't feel the pain but in fact your body is used to it there will be times when the pain gets worst but ever feel gulity. If you ever want to talk i am reg on the site. julie.morgan

sorry missed out 'don't ever feel gulity ' on my previous message

there is no way iin a life time you will get over the lost of a baby i lost my first daughter at two days old the pain doesnt get easier but you learn to live with the pain you feel i have good days and bad days...i was 18 when i lost georgia i am 32 now and carring my 2nd child am i frighten yes will it happen again no... i belive the reason why i could get up each morning was that georgias stenght was inside me and she carry me on even though i can never see her or hold her again i hold her in my heart.. and i will until the day i join her... i have looked at it in so many diff ways over the years i have friends who have been trying to have a baby for over 10 years and with the help of god they still try the heartache they have been though has been so hard to watch and in a strange way i am blessed i have given birth and no one can take that away.... dont blame yourself i did for a long time were not to blame no one is they were just too specail for this world and became our own personally angels xxx