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hello hun, im not sure how it works but you have the right to change ur health visitor.
i wouldnt imagine you'd have to explain why and im sure if you did,you'd have a good enough reason.
is there more than one health visitor that deals with your GP , have you asked about that yet?

Thanks for that, no I haven't asked, I have been avoiding the hv like the plague tbh, i have been dealing with my gp directly (due to work, I can't make the weekly baby clinic so i have been making check up appointments with the gp other times). I didn't think about asking the gp lol i will do so, though what i have seen of the other hv that covered her holiday, I don't think i'll be much better off. The main problem I have is that i feel harrassed, because my baby is not physically developing as quick as others. He is 10 months and still not sitting unaided. I don't have a problem with this as I can see he is bright enough in other areas and all babies develop at different times, and the GP doesn't have a problem either, as she explained he is a big boy for his age, and she is happy with how he is getting on, but the hv is going on so much about it, if i was weak minded i would be terrified by now, and she is very pushy too. The main worry i have is that they will think i don't want her to see him because i have someting to hide, which I don't and the GP can verify that, but i resent being made to feel inadequate for something that i can't help

i totally understand where your coming from hun. my health visitor is the same, and i think the do have guidelines they do have to follow just to be on the safe side. i think theyd do a check up or refer baby on at 9month if they r not sitting unaided....which,yes does sound daunting and ur very right that every baby is different.
my son was born with nerve damage to his arm, and has had fits,kidney problems in the past year so if he is missing out of baby group or nursery she is the first to be on the phone to me, which i personally dont mind because i feel looked after if that makes sense.

im not sure what else to say,but do ask your gp if there is another hv available,you shoudlnt feel harrassed at any point,especially not if ur not worried and your son isnt showing any other signs of delays.

thanks again, i understand the 9 month referral, but she's been on at me since 5 months!! Should have mentioned that before, that at 5 months she wanted to do WEEKLY check to see about his sitting. it's not just that either, but thanks again for your support

strange,she sounds like a very obsessive health visitor to me haha.
its ok hun, hope you get things sorted. xx

In my expereince a lot of health visitors, and community midwives, tend to be nothing more than busy bodies.
I've no intention of allowing any sticky beak health visitor, or midwife, into my home, it's my choice!
You are not obliged to let them into you or your baby's life!

I totally agree my health visitors are crap. I live in between two districts and nobody knows who should be visiting. I did not see a midwife until i had been discharged for 3 days and they only came out 2. My health visitor has changed 3 times although i have only had 1 visit. I am pleased there are sites like this and that i have a good support network around me to ask for advice. I asked how to help him sleep on his back and the reply was just lie him on his back. I said even though he wakes up and howls and she just shrugged. Hope you get sorted x

Hi
Ive never used the health visitors.
There are 2 times i will/might see them, once for the hearing test and i will see them on the 8 month assesment, if there is something i would like to discuss.
Usually not!
If i thought there was a problem i'd call them or see my GP.
Its up to you if you want the support of a health visitor, but the ones i have met vary from battleaxe to nice but very young (almost like straight from college) telling me whats best for my children.
One health visitor told me to tell my friends and family who smoke to not smoke for an hour before visits and to change their clothes before holding the baby. I said crikey theres more toxins on them from the street, so should i put an antiseptic tank out front for them to bathe in first.
I cant tell anyone to change their clothes first or not to smoke for an hour before coming in, and i wouldnt, i tell them they cant smoke in my house (before anyone jumps lol)
Some of the advice is impractical, most in fact.
And by refusing to see one, doesnt mean youve got anything to hide, you are within your rights to refuse visits.
shaz x

Thanks girls for your comments and support, i'm glad I'm not the only one. I quite agree with the fact they are either oldies therefore they know everything or girls who know everyting from a textbook, and as we all know babies are far from textbook! Well, my GP has done a hospital referral just to be on the safe side, so next time she rings I am going to ask if she has actually read his notes, as it has gone beyond her jurisdiction. Most of the advice I have been given is completely impractical anyways, and could easily scare you if you really were unsure of things. Yet as Cazzah stated, if you ask them for advice, well their answers would make a politician proud, answering without actually giving you the information you need!!

hi girls i was just reading this forum and although its an old one i know what you mean tbh my health visitor has put me on edge and feeling very uneasy

i spoke to one about my daughter taking 7oz 5 times a day she calculated this as 32oz im sure 7 x 5 = 35 lmao

and also i went round there for some advice on teething not one health visitor was there they were all on visits

i also asked what can i do about sophies cough to help the mucus drain i know cough medicines are a big no no but was wondering if theres something out there that may help her to produce a productive cough (tobring up phlegm rather than harboring it) and this woman who took my msg was from the hv team but had no advice what to give whatsoever just said ill pass the msg on an get them to call guess what no one called

so im gonna just go to the nurse now for things instead of the hv team and see my network of friends or gp for my health concerns