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Hi, I think you can only follow your instincts with this sort of thing. Some people don't seem to mind strangers approaching their babies but personally I am not comfortable with it.

My little girl has loads of hair so people are always commenting on it and trying to stroke her head! I do the same as you, tell them politely not to!

hi there, i think if you dont want her to touch your baby then either tell them or be subtle grab a nappy and find a baby change room and take baby off some where else while u do a fake nappy change just to get away. if your worried about these people with what they are doing then i strongly suggest you phone or visit the place where this keeps happening so that they are aware. not all people think the same as us. i personally dont see it as normal for random people to pick my baby up or stroke her face i find it all daunting especially went to get ona bus and the man asked if i wanted him to hold my baby! i was like NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO and waited for a different bus! i know alot of people dont think its worrying a woman being interested in babies but i do if they are trying to pick my daughter up and stroke her. i find it just as worrying if a man did it. why cant they admire our babies with just looking at them? i do think you need to inform the place where this is happening though. i dont think your being over protective either. you know your baby and you know what is best for your baby. if your unhappy with it the chances of your baby feeling the same is pretty equalas they pick up on our emotions, your completely right to feel like you do.

Hi hun, just go with what you feel, you get loads of people coming up to you and talking or touching our babies, most don't mean any harm, though you'll also get a few no it all's as well, i've had a few of those and though most of the time i just ignore them a couple of times they have upset me. So i understand if your not too keen on your lo being touched,you don't have to be rude, just say something like you did and hopefully it'll be enough to deter them. xxxx

hi i dont mind people talkin to my baby or commenting on her but i would draw the line at touching...shes only 2 weeks old and yh she needs to be exposed to germs but u dont know where these people have been. go with ur gut and if bein polite doesnt work...be more inpolite...but i agree..u should let the center know.

People seem to react very strangely when babies are around. With my first son, people were always commenting on something, especially if he was crying, and it used to drive me mad. To be honest, I don't think either of these women meant any harm, but she's YOUR baby, and if you don't want strange people touching her then don't let them.

hi. im pregnant with my first child and I know that I wont feel comfortable with strangers coming up and touching my baby. I would never dream of doing it to others and there is a boundary that people shouldn't cross x

ive had a few people doing this to my children and to be honest its normally old ladies so i dont seem to mind too much. People seem to lose all conseption of whats acceptable and not with touching. I used to hate people touching my belly when i was pregnant and i would never dream of doing anything like this but people just do it. I would just make my excuses and go off to change a nappy to divert the attention. I found it a tricky one as yes its your baby and up to you who touches them but its hard to stop people without causing offence. xx

Hi,my baby has also got loads of hair and everyone comments on it and sometimes stroke it.You should do whatever feels comfortable,she's obviously not very happy about strangers touching her,you know best.Sometimes i don't mind and sometimes you just get a feeling about someone,follow your instincts.My daughter is 5 months and makes it very obvious if she's not happy with someone getting too close,she'll give a good loud yell.some people she is happy with and others she's not,and i never let someone near her that she is not happy with.If you have to then be rude!

I would just like to say I don't even like my family picking up or touching my baby - apart from her gran that is!!!
Don't know what the obsession is with people wanting to hold other peoples babies - especially when they are asleep.

its funny what some other people do i would never dream of walking up to a stranger and start stroking their child,even with our families its gets on my nerves that they all have to hold her and she isnt a really cuddly baby with other people so she just struggles when they are cuddling her she wants to be off explorind and seeing whats going on,i just feel like screaming that shes not a doll to get passed round,my in laws do this at one party when she was a month old my hubbie wasnt there and she just got took off me at the door and passed round by like 14 people i was so upset i just wanted her,no one thought how it made me feel,she is 30 weeks now i am much tougher no they have a cuddle and 10 seconds later either cries to get down or i just say come to mummy and take her,the in laws hate this as they see me as interfearing with 'their time'!!anyway back to the point of this tread my daughter has my red hair so she gets alot of comments and peps trying to touch her hair,usually old ladies i think my baby likes the attention she usually smiles,i dont mind old ladies but it does get on my nerves when we are shopping or having dinner and someone comes over,its just rude jo x