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Hi they will come to speak to you to assess whether they think your partner poses a risk to the child and if so they will assess your ability to protect the child physically and emotionally. They will probably ask you questions about what your intentions are when he leaves Jail e.g. will you live together, what you would do if he did become abusive towards you (e.g. pushing and shoving) or if his drinking started to escalate in the future. Before Social Services even consider removing a child, they will offer lots of support to parents to assist them in parenting their child well if they feel it is necessary. I have worked with lots of women whose partner's are in prison and often Social Service just do an assessment and decide there is no further action required so I wouldn't worry too much at this stage. Just a word of warning though, it your partner has become aggressive towards you in the past, this can increase when a women is pregnant. If things do get worse (hopefully they won't and he will change for the better) ask for support and don't suffer in silence.

thanks for the info hun it was much needed and has help me feel a bit better i think i looked into it to much n fort social services = my baby gona get taken away from me not they will just want to make sure all is ok n help, a common mistake im sure most women make.... again thank you x

tink id just like 2 say i am actualy going threw the exact same things with my partner hes still in prison now n wont be out till after my little girls born, it is hard but u just need 2 think about ur baby thats what im doing, if push really did come 2 shove, id always choose my baby over my partner, but social services do only get involved to make sure the babys safe =] x

Although they'r_ not everyones best friends, social services never WANT to take a child away from their parents unless there is a serious reason to. Its not you they have an issue with its the babys dad, they want to know that you are ok emotionally, and if they deem you not to be, they will give you all the help they can, they'll give you a social worker who will visit you every few weeks to make sure your happy and baby is happy and that you have no problems. They can give you support emoptionally and physically and can give you advice.

I wouldnt worry, unless you give them a reason to take your child away (being violent towards a child for example) they will not take them. :)